This is Us

Good Morning or Evening wherever this finds you on the globe.

Happy Fri-Yay Funday!

Fun Today is when I finally got my kids attention and they noticed me. YAY!!!!

I was so excited to share the interview Kally from MiddleMe (our fellow blogger) did on me on Monday with my 4 kids and sent them the link and got no response, which didn’t surprise me, because I’m used to it. My husband and I were just lamenting over the fact that we rarely hear from them and of course no news is good news but we often wonder, “do they ever think of us at all“? We hear from some of our friends, how their kids call everyday which always makes a little sad. And then we go to the place none of us should go which is blaming ourselves. “What did we do wrong or maybe do right”? Idk. We’d be thrilled with every 2 weeks. Is that asking for too much? If you read my posts, you’ll know we are a really close knit family and really love each other but we still would like to hear from them once in a while without being the ones that always reach out. And even when we do, rarely do they call back unless of course it’s an emergency.

We made a pact that we would not call and wait to see how long it took for them to call us. We even made up some texts we never sent. “Hi, it’s Mom and Dad and we thought we’d give you a quick update. Harry (our dog died), Ollie (our cat ran away), we listed our house and are moving; oh, and grandma got run over by a reindeer”. 🤣 We didn’t send it but we had fun laughing and scratching our heads. The good news is, I don’t need to worry about them reading this of course, so there’s that. 😜 To be fair one did text me and one is living at home so he has to talk to us. Ha Ha! Sweet Revenge.

I was disappointed but it’s not the first time this has happened. If you are a mom and or dad perhaps you share our frustration. For those of you who are in constant communication like some of our friends are with their kids, we have to tell the truth, we’re a little bit “jelly”. For those of you who have the same experience with yours, you’re not alone and we feel your pain. (Pain in the asses..ha ha)!

A huge shout out to all of you kids ( big and little….. I call mine every couple of days and text most days) who call your parents regularly, just to say Hi and let them know you are alive. Kuddos to us!

So, I sent the link of the interview to them on Monday and got no response back. Three days later I got the text and screen shot below with NO mention of my interview of course. No surprise there! Hey, at least they’re consistent. 😜

I need to give you a little fill in here first. I have been told by my writing group that you need to build a platform if you want to have any publisher look at your book and as much Facebook and Instagram are not my BFF’s, I’ve been starting to keep up at bit. One of my daughters clicked all of these people I need to follow on my phone so I have been trying to stay active. I don’t know most of them and am not sure why they are even there. Honestly, I don’t think I can sustain this much longer.

Sterling K. Brown is one of the people that shows up on my feed. For those of you who don’t know who he is, here’s a little back ground on him. He is in a show, This Is Us that we watch so I guess that’s why she put him on my follow list.

Sterling Kelby Brown (born April 5, 1976)[1] is an American actor. He has portrayed Christopher Darden in the FX limited series The People v. O. J. Simpson: American Crime Story (2016) and, as of 2020, stars as Randall Pearson in the NBC drama series This Is Us (2016–present). Both roles have earned him Primetime Emmy Awards and the latter also won him a Golden Globe Award. Brown has also played supporting roles in the films Black Panther (2018) and Waves (2019), and recently appeared on the Amazon Primeoriginal series The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel.

He has also voiced characters in The Angry Birds Movie 2 and Frozen II (both 2019).

Brown was included in Time magazine’s 100 Most Influential People of 2018.[2

Here is the message I woke up to on our Family Phone Text.

Daughter # 2: Look at what my friends screenshot and send to me

From Daughter # 2: Oh my god. Out of control

Me: Your friends should spend more time worrying about their own lives. And you have the nerve. He at least went to my site and “hit me up” on my website and blog. Actually quite happy you found a reason to notice me. Have a good day!😘

My Son: Send the link to this post

Me: I just did… thanks. I sent Kally’s link again which is what I thought he wanted and I got excited.
It’s above too
.

My Son: Lol the link to his post and where he hit you up

Me: I would not subject him to you all!

Daughter # 3: We need proof

Me: I’m done with y’all

My Son: What’s this guys name all?

Daughter #2 How do you not know who Sterling Brown is? What’s wrong with mom anyways?!

Me: Maybe you all should get a life too!

My son: Haha, omg all of the older women commenting on his post. I would still like to see where he commented to you.

You gotta admit he is pretty damn cute. Here is the video of Sterling I responded to.

So the moral of the story is our kids are always watching us, even if it’s just to torture us, daughter number 1 was smart to never comment, and my one and only son is looking for a new place to live (not really) and I’m LMAO!!!!!

Have a great weekend!!!! And remember, we’re doing our job if we’re embarrassing our kids.

I’ll see you Monday with my interview from Kally so stay tuned.

Thanks for reading this and let me know if you have any fun stories as well. I’d love to hear!

Remember to like (if you do of course), comment and or share.

Cheers,

❤️

Cindy

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140 thoughts on “This is Us

  1. Hi Cindy – as you know – we recently connected via your interview on kally’s blog @Middle Me
    Your humor here is a nice splash to the way you write about family and social themes.

    I have grown children out of the house and could relate to what you were talking about – and I think it can be a very healthy thing for them to be on their own and not checking in all the time – it means we prepared them for independence
    And while we still do want the connecting – I know that in my own experience with my mother – it was not until my 30s and 40s when I valued the connection – well I always valued it but did not know I did until a certain age.
    And it is so normal to need to get on with some space from our primary care givers – ya know?

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    1. Yes, we did and I really apprciate your perspective here. Thank you so much! Do you mind if I might call you by your name? I’m so glad you enjoyed the splash of humor and fun.

      It’s good to have others get the sentiments of what we experience having adult children. I do think you are right and they do need to learn to navigate their lives so they can find their independence. Truly, that is what we want for them. You know, I just want them to be healthy and happy and they are doing an incredible job in their careers and personal life which is very fullfilling.
      I do think you’re right that they come around when they are in their 30’s or 40’s or when they have kids of their own. I actually am ok if none of them marry or have kids ( I think) ha ha.
      So nice you had that realization with your mom and connection.
      I think that it is the way it’s supposed to be and is healthy.
      Hey, I just had one actually read this and I just got a phone call. Yay.. lol..
      Have a great weekend!! ❤️🤗🙏Cindy

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      1. Hi Cindy – I usually prefer to
        Go by “prior” online – but I am not picky

        And a couple of years ago my mom and I were talking because guess what? I forgot she took me to take the driving test for my driver’s license.
        Cindy – i recall the street the test was on- the maroon F150! But wiped her out of the memory – and we laughed because we both know it is a “primary caregiver” kind of thing –
        You know – where we might just take them so for granted they blend in to the peripheral 😉

        And I know we just connected but you sound like an awesome momma

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      2. Hi Prior!
        Thanks for letting me know your preference.
        Oh my that sounds about right forgetting parts of the story. I can relate and my mom said tonight about a historical event I forgot.
        It’s great we can laugh about these things together and your mom got it and wasn’t upset. That’s such a good point to remember and now it’s happening with us. 🥺
        You are very kind to say that!
        I do my best!!! Thank you so much!
        I appreciate your sharing!!!
        ❤️

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    1. Thanks my dear friend Ellia!!! I know you know as well and I’m glad it brought a chuckle!!!! Oh i love that.. balm to our souls! In the mean time, I’m closing some of these devices.. Hey, and wonders never cease.. I just got a call from Blair, so all is not lost in fun and love.
      Thanks for checking in and your thoughts. It means a lot!
      Love you ❤️C

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  2. Your post made me laugh out loud!
    I have one child/adult who calls almost daily (I think in an effort to maintain some control- either that or to see if I have lost my mind yet), and another who is more free-spirited and texts (calls sometimes) every week or two.

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  3. Well I’m pleased you found a way to get your kids to take notice of you! Reminds me I must treasure these moments when they are little and want me to take notice of them all the time!!! Also I must call my dad…it’s just that I’m a morning person and he stays up all night and sleeps all morning – so he’d never available when I want to talk to him! A lovely post Cindy, thanks for sharing 😊

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    1. Me too, thanks Ingrid.. whatever it takes.. lol.
      You are so right, it is such a gift when they are young and they actually think you know something and love to be with you. That’s funnny about your day. At least he knows your trying. I’m off to get an orchid for a friend/client with my mom today who just gifted her, her treadmill. Have a beautiful weekend! ❤️🤗

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  4. Cindy, this is great and so relatable. I have three kids. One only calls when they need something (💰). One every now and then, usually for advice and one calls me everyday just to say hi.
    I hope you are safe where you are. Have a great weekend.

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      1. OMG.. soooo HAPPY!
        Thanks so much it was so lovely to catch up. Love you to the moon 🌝 and back 😍 💕
        Have a great weekend. Now you have to call dad or he’ll be mad I talked without him .. 😂😂😂
        xo mom
        Mom

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  5. “we’re doing our job if we’re embarrassing our kids”… lol😅😂

    I do this to my mom. Look it’s not like I’m ignoring her but it just happens without me noticing. She calls me every single day when I’m in school though… love her so much for that. But her texts, I plead guilty to ignoring 😅😊
    Enjoyed reading this! Cut them some slack Cindy. They care, just not how you’d like I guess😁

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    1. Sooo glad you are laughing Joel!!!
      Oh NO… honestly, I do too. That is so funny. 😹
      Yeah I get it we pester at the wrong times etc. And hey, at least you’re honest!
      Thanks for reading too. My kids will be lovin your support and actually my daughter called and responded here too. I’d say it was pretty effective. lol. 🤣
      Slack? ha ha! I’m a slave driver.. ha ha!!! ❤️🤗

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      1. They sure do have my support… 100 percent!😅
        Wait, your daughter responded to your post or my comment? Either ways, pretty effective as you said😁
        I know you cut them the slack… don’t sound tough here😅😊

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    1. lol.. true that!!!! Right?!!!! My son actually called the number last night since he couldn’t get me to. I thought it was a political campaign but he does just say hi blah.. very cute. Now Obama is giving his number out. I better stop while I’m ahead. lol.

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  6. I can only imagine your frustration Cindy. You were so excited for this interview. 😬😬. And the interview went so great. Loved reading that and loved reading this. You handled it pretty well. If it were for my parents, I’ll be dragged back to the home with my one ear in their hand. 😅😅. Can’t wait for everyone to read the amazing interview between you and Kally. 😇

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    1. Thanks for getting my frustration Kumar and actually reading it before it was hot off the press. That was very validating and a joy to share with someone who cared. My mom actually is my biggest cheerleader and so excited for every post. So cute. When we have joy, we want to share it and I think they view this W.P. as silly and a waste of time. IDK but I do appreciate your kind words. So again, thanks for the joy and the Gify lesson and fun. Oh that’s funny with your parents. LMAO.. I hope they read this.. lol. Aww thanks, it was quite fun to do and an honor coming from Kally. Have a great night Kumar!!! ❤️ Cindy

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  7. ♡ As a Writer y’all know I Don’t Mince My Words and SomeTimes I AM Quite Brutal; so My Family Rejoices that I Live Half a World AWAY!!! and They Pray that I Don’t Contact Them Until I AM Dead but They ARE NOT!!! Privy to My Post Death Plan 😇🙃😉 ergo VICTORY IS MINE!!! 😂🤣😅😆😁😄😃😀🙂

    …♡♡♡…

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  8. ♡ Funnily enough My Marvellous Mom accused me of accusing Her; now I AM Confused and Even More Happy to be “Half a World AWAY!!!” from ‘Them’ ~ Movie EveryOne and I Suggest Watch It and ALL Their “Family” Dramas as I Live a Blissful, Obligation and Stress Free 3DLife 😂🤣😅😆😁😄😃😀🙂

    …♡♡♡…

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    1. ♡ Also recommend organising a “Family” and Friends around a Home Movie Event; it’s ‘Storks’ ~ Movie that Delivers (pun intended) Very Pertinent Messages about The Reality of “Family”

      …♡♡♡…

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      1. ♡ Like I Said Storks, Justice League of America, Lord of The Rings/Hobbit, Matilda, The BFG, The Wizard of Oz and Any Other Family Friendly Movies; the List is Endless especially Walt Disneys Stuff with His Loyal Employees

        …♡♡♡…

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      2. ♡ A “little slow” and “confused” young lady; no wonder your kids run rings around you 😂🤣😅😆😁😄😃😀🙂

        …♡♡♡…

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      1. ♡ I Said to a friend that NightTime Dreams ARE Real; so He Laughed then I Asked Him about His what His most recent NightMare was, He Hung Up

        …♡♡♡…

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  9. ♡ “Real” is a Point of PAM (Perspective Attitude MindSet); if We ARE UnWilling to Accept The Perceived Craziness and Ridiculousness of “Drama” then We ARE Lost EveryOne

    …♡♡♡…

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  10. ♡ Hope y’all Got ‘The Simpsons’ and ‘”Family” Guy’ Connections EveryOne; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity ‘Family First’ (Although The Communication Frequency Thing is a Bit Unclear) then Friends and Others Later; drop EveryThing for Family I Suggest, The Rest Can Be Picked Up Later 😏🤭🤗

    …♡♡♡…

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      1. ♡ I Hope this is Useful; as Opposed to Offensive 😔

        …♡♡♡…

        ON TEAMS OR TRIBES

        ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

        ◇ A Tribe has Chieftans, Both Female and Male while a Team is Equitable, LeaderLess, with only Ever Having Leaders in Certain, Clear, Specific Situations; so ARE YOU!!! a Tribalist or a TeamMate 🤔 ?

        nisi mortuus nec neque nolite vicit 🤭🤫🤐

        ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

        …◇◇◇…

        ON EVOLVING IN A SINGLE 3DLIFETIME

        ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

        ◇ My Cells ARE Now Crystalline Evolved from Carbon like a Diamond under Severe Stress, Hot Heat and Pulsating Pressure of My Personal History; here ARE My Words of Warning, it’s FUCKING!!! Painful to Evolve, a bit like Pregnancy involving Energetic Spewing and Other Less than Pleasant Stuff, yet Well Worth It like Horrible Little Brats 😂🤣😅😆😁😄😃😀🙂 , ergo:

        ♡ Co-Dependency; reliance on others rather than self
        ♤ Physiology; same sensation for different reasons
        ◇ Wisdom; correct application of “knowledge”

        …it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that MMHI (Multiple Mental Health Issues) Prevent Us from Embarking on Our Own, Personal, Unique, Individual Evolutionary Path; so I Urge, I Implore, I Beg YOU!!! to please Admit, Acknowledge and Address YOUR MMHI then, in The Best Possible Way, Evolve…

        nisi mortuus nec neque nolite vicit 🤭🤫🤐

        ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

        …◇◇◇…

        ON EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION AND ACTIVE LISTENING

        ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

        ◇ If something offends you after you have read it then I Suggest Delete and Forget you ever read it or engage the poster in Full and Frank Discussion about your being offended; any Other Action is Madness such as Trolling, Blocking, Lurking or Ignoring Them with The Silent Treatment

        nisi mortuus nec neque nolite vicit 🤭🤫🤐

        ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

        …◇◇◇…

        ON SUCCESS

        ♡ Evolve Gracefully; ’nuff said

        nisi mortuus nec neque nolite vicit 🤭🤫🤐

        …♡♡♡…

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  11. This made me laugh aloud. Alone in the room so don’t have everyone commenting or asking what I’m laughing at.
    I loved your unsent text. I could so see my father writing something like that – though he would write it with untrue good news not negative.
    Sending sunshine and sparkles

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      1. I’d say go for it!! I don’t really know Facebook but what do you have to lose? Yeah, he texts us thanks for helping when he wanted help, or how much he appreciated our call (nonexistant). Though if he ever calls us a couple times we’d be sure to answer or call back if we see because he’s the type to panic. If he didn’t call it’s a non issue, but if he did…

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  12. haa, such a lovely heart warming read Cindy. Even though i wanted to write something the first time i visited your page here, but comments section was closed on your about. Just wanted to share that you are the true brave heart, trying out and becoming as beautiful and river like as you can be.
    I am certain your children are slowly going to be coming closer and closer, slowly slowly. Lovely to be here.

    ❤️
    Nara

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    1. Oh I am so touched you enjiyed it Nara and sharing your appreciation. Thank you so much and also letting me know the comments were closed.. Not sure why.. I’ll have to find out. I love how you phrased that. I try but sometimes I have a challenging time, I do hope that is the plan, Many blessings to you!! ❤️ Cindy

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  13. Uh oh. 😬 I’ve got to change my ways now. My kids are the first to reach out to me on their phones but they still live at home. I prefer to talk in person but maybe I need to start working on a “text everyday” schedule.
    Maybe by the time they leave the house it will be as routine as brushing their teeth!
    I can’t imagine… kids are such a big part of your life and then they are *poof* gone… 😢

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  14. You people and your over-connectedness! My father calls me and guilts me with “…haven’t talked to you in a while.” instead of realizing he’s talking to me now. How much could we talk about EVERY day?
    “What are you having for supper?” (The # most-asked question among over-connected family members)
    “Peas and carrots.”
    “Oh, nice.”
    Long, dreadful, unproductive silent pause.
    “So, have you heard from Russ?”
    I guess we move on to vicariously guilting my brother through me.
    Then those annoying kids call.
    “Dad, haven’t talked to you for a while.”
    “Yeah. Good to hear your voice. How are you? What have you been up to?”
    “Good. Good. Actually, I was calling to see if you had a (drain snake/roof rake/clutch puller/chainsaw sharpener/tire plug kit/sump pump/really big adjustable wrench/ truck/spare two thousand dollars) I could borrow?”
    Then my wife calls. Invariably I am at work, with the leash of a Bengal Tiger in one hand while the other hand is plugging a hole in the dike waiting for backup.
    “Hi.” L o n g p a u s e…
    “Howdy! What’s up?”
    “Nothing.” L o n g p a u s e… “So what do you want for supper?”
    “Whatever you like.”
    “What do you feel like?”
    “Oh. I dunno. How about eggs? Maybe omelets.And pancakes if you like.”
    “No. I don’t want that.”
    “How about subs? I’ll pick up takeout on the way home.”
    “No. Not subs.” L o n g p a u s e… “Maybe I’ll make lamb chops, with some squash.” (FYI: two things I would NEVER ask for)
    “Okay. Sounds good.”
    “Or maybe hamburgers.” L o n g p a u s e…”I’ll think of something.”
    “So, what else is happening on the home front today?”
    “Oh. There’s my sister calling. I gotta go.” Click.

    You need to understand that some people are INITIATORS and some are RECEIVERS.
    Initiators think of the phone as an extension of their bodies and minds. Anyone else that has a phone number has agreed to be open game, apparently. Like buying lottery tickets, their compulsion forces them to dial number after number until they feel they’ve found a winner.
    Receivers, on the other hand, hardly know how to dial a phone. In fact, some may have difficulty answering the new-fangled ones where you have to swipe your filthy finger right across the place you’re about to put your mouth for the next XX minutes of conversation. We, er, I mean, THEY are often likely to be doing something when you call, and with great subtlety they will let you know they don’t have time to keep their nose and mouth pressed to the filthy phone just to find out what you’re having for supper. They’ll do this by speaking to others “Hold on mom. Mark and Dell, you guys run that fire hose up to the second floor. Brian. BRIAN! Get that dozer over here so we can reinforce the levee before the hurricane hits. Watch out for that ambulance now. …So, mom, what’s going on?”
    “I was wondering ”
    “I’m sorry, mom, it’s hard to hear with all these lions roaring at the same time…”
    “I SAID: I WAS WONDERING WHAT GRETA IS MAKING FOR SUPPER.”

    Keep in touch,
    Paz

    p.s.: In reality, my sainted mother has been gone from my world more than a decade now. I can only wish she would call me in the middle of a high-ropes rescue to ask me what I was having for supper.

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    1. OMG THIS IS JUST HYSTERICAL!
      Thanks for this I am LMAO.
      Lions and tigers and bears oh my. So sweet you miss you moms constant barrage of questions. My mother in law was like this and Iso miss her too!!!
      Im going to re read this later when I’m done with clients for the day and feline friends, dogs etc it’s a dog eat dog day… 😂 🤣❤️🤣❤️👏👏👏🤣

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  15. Hi Cindy, sounds like we have a similar philosophy on raising children
    Love them unconditionally give them “roots and wings” enjoy every moment you have with them be fully present and have no expectations..each moment is indeed a gift that we will never have again ❤️ is the answer to all encounters

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  16. I visit my parents once a week. I used to call them when i had minutes on my phone but i don’t anymore. I should still call them on whatsapp though. I also should call my grandparents more often. I visit them once a month. I haven’t called them in a week i think. I have a problem with calling bcz im more of a texter not a caller

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