Woke up to this yesterday morning with a grateful heart.
Congratulations on getting 1,000 total follows on Unique Times!Your current tally is 1,001.
1,000 followers begins with a single word and continues to flourish because someone believes in you and supports you. And that would be all of you talented writers, artists, photographers, friends, clients, etc. I am humbly grateful to ALL OF YOU for reading, commenting and sharing my work.
Thank you so much!!!!!
When I saw that I was so close at the end of the year I was elated to finish strong with 1 k. It is symbolic of me staying true to my mission even when the world changes course and direction. It wasn’t a goal until 2 weeks ago when I realized I was coming close and Ero said ” It would be great way to finish the year at 1 k”. I reached out to a couple of followers who said “sure, reach out to a few of mine”. And the last one that said “I’d be happy to follow you and he said with one more you are at 1,000”. Thanks to Salsaworldtravelor. Always remember, last but not least is as important as first in line.
I can’t thank you enough for your support in getting to this milestone in blogging. I actually have 1025 followers counting email followers but they don’t count toward our numbers. Does anyone know why? Yes, another pet peeve I have with W.P. but this is no time to complain, just curious.
Yes, I’m on vacation but I just had to say how much I appreciate you all!
Hope you are enjoying the holidays! I haven’t played so many games in ages or stayed up so late. Good thing I took a break!!! I’ll need a vacation from my vacation when we all go our separate ways again but in the meantime, it’s a blast.
In wrapping up the year, I am feeling particular grateful for your friendship, follow, comments and sharing my work. Thank so so much for being here to share insights, learn, grow and support each other in our journey together. It truly is a gift and I have learned so much from each of you which I am eternally grateful for, whether it be how to technically do something when posting, learning a new form of poetry, learning about history or admire your amazing photography! A picture or quote says a thousand words. I am so inspired by our community and apprecaite you.
I know it’s been a tough year with loss, changes which have called us to higher ground and finding meaning in tough times but we are doing it.
Alrighty, let’s get on to blogging. I don’t usually write about blogging because I like to stick to my strengths and this is not my area of expertise. However, after 7 months of blogging regularly, I have some opinions and Pet Peeves if you will, that I want to share. I hope you find my ideas helpful.
Mind you this is my complete bias and everyone will and should run their blogging page in their own way. After all, it is YOUR POST and what you do with your site is up to you. Do it your way.
Write good content.
What do you want to impart? What is the purpose of your blog posts? If you have lousy content: NO ONE WANTS TO READ IT, EXCEPT YOU and perhaps the few others that find company in misery. Again, that’s ok, if that’s all you care about.
Edit your work!
Good editors will tell you straight up that it has to go to the chopping board if it’s not content worthy. Most of us won’t be hiring an editor for our blog post, so you’ll have to wear 2 hats… writer and editor. But you say, “oh it’s so good though.” Well, maybe to you but if you aren’t getting followers and you want them, get the chopping board out. And that means spelling, grammar, run on sentences etc. You will be forgiven for an occasional slip up but after a while, people will get tired of it, when they can surf to the next good writer. It’s a drag, I get it and as the queen of run on sentences and not framing my thoughts. I know how painstaking it is to go over something umpteen times, only to still get it wrong at times. That’s where my kids ridiculing me has come in handy or my husband’s first comment in the morning; “you have an error.” I get so mad and roll my eyes because I want to hear something positive after spending so much time checking it but it’s the best gift I could have been given.
Pictures and some Gify’s and emojis add a lot.
Start with one and grow from there. I’m still trying to figure out why when I do a tile picture someone sees it all chopped up and it looks perfect in preview. Do tell please, if you know the answer to this! As you get better, you can add more and use applications such as Canva, Getty Images etc. It’s been fun learning how to add words over pictures. Practice a lot, because you’ll forget unless you do it a lot.
SEO’s: Search Engine Optimization:
I hear they are great… I do try to title my post with some words I will use again so when people search me they will find me, and use post tags as well… Refer to Rising Star, Ero, Pooja Shelly etc for great articles on this and others. They are the masterminds here. There are SEO plugins that you can look up and will do a lot of the work for you. SEO’s are essential if you are trying to grow your audience. Rising Star has great tips for SEO’s in blogging as well as other tips. This posts does a great job explaining your options and considerations when learning about SEO’s. It’s a rabbit hole but very useful information to know. Also, check out Pooja’s posts at lifesfinewhine for great ideas. Ero Eromonsele Emmanuel, from ericotrips just put out the Good Bad the bad and honorable mentions in his last post with some great tips I had never heard of either. They are really helpful. Do check it out. Also, Shelly from Growing With Swan also has some amazing posts on blogging so check her out too. All of these bloggers are multidimensional and are genuinly great people as well.
Liking and commenting on Blogs:
If you don’t like a post, don’t comment. You can feel inauthenticity through the ethers. But if you do, acknowledge their work. It’s the old adage, what goes around, comes around. People say to me I write too much in comments and they have great tips where they copy and paste a few different line’s in people’s posts and rotate them which is a good idea and a great time saver, I just can’t do that unfortunately. I do end up way too long commenting but it’s because I only comment when I truly am moved and sometimes, it’s only a quick response. It builds relationships though and I feel a genuine connection with that person and I know they do with me. I actually search out some of my friends if I haven’t heard from them in a long time. I am just seriously hoping everything is ok with them.
Don’t like something?
Skip it altogether then. The beauty of W.P, unlike other sites is, it’s not a pissing match and there is deep respect most of the time for others points of few. I have only seen one or 2 times otherwise and it really is disturbing. How not to win friends and influence people. Lol. It’s just plain rude. Now, I love healthy bantering or questions and clarification etc. That is awesome and allows for learning about each other’s backgrounds and history where we can expand and grow in respect.
Share people’s names and site by referencing their content with a hyperlink or reblog. Referrals are the nicest form of flattery which is how I have single handedly built my business with a waiting list.
When someone follows you
Thank them and review their content and if you like their work, follow back. If you want to play, you gotta pay. It’s a 2 way street. I want to go to someone’s site naturally when they follow me because I’m so appreciative. You don’t have to follow but it’s nice if you are inclined and like their work. If you don’t, search out other blogs you connect with. It’s important you honor your interests. I sometimes follow people in another language even though I don’t know what they are saying because I’m drawn to them by their pictures, their smile etc. Sometimes I think, “God I hope they aren’t an axe murderer or something” but so far, my intuition has been right I think. 🤣. I also might not have an interest in their subject but I like them and want to acknowledge them. Sometimes I look for underdogs that have good content but no one sees it and I want to let them know they are valuable, so I like their work. It’s the life coach in me I guess.
Check you spam in comments:
Regularly for followers. Often your followers will end up in spam for a few reasons, either a misclick by you or they were flagged by WordPress. So, if you haven’t seen them for a while check and take them out if they were flagged incorrectly. If someone seems suspicious or is trying to post links in your comments, they may be a scammer and should be left in your spam folder. Scammers will use disguised links and proxies to lure you into websites with viruses or other scams.
Contests and Awards:
Up to you and it’s such an awesome way to make friends right away, acknowledge new bloggers in particular to motivate them and keep them writing. It also builds a following but let me warn you, it takes a lot of time, so be ready for the onslaught. It’s really fun at first ’cause it gets you out of the gate running but you will keep that race up and it can be exhausting. However, just know a lot of these people will be your forever friends because you started out together and are helping each other grow and thrive. It’s fine to have an award free site and write that on your site when people go to your site. It helps when people who want to give you an award know that you don’t participate. It’s a lot of work researching bloggers etc., so it saves them time and the hassle of explaining that you don’t participate in them. I should write that on my site but I truly want to help them and I think “oh, I can do this and I really can’t.
I just want to say THANK YOU SO MUCH to all of you who gifted me awards this year and the ones I never got to even with the best of intentions. You know who you are and I am so appreciative and apologize for not having the time to participate.
A huge thanks to Kally at Middleme for doing an interview on me in the begining of Covid. She writes incredible interviews and career posts. It was well received and I was honored to be invited. Also, thank you Yvette from Priorhouse for the kind mini interview that came out last week. I will repost in January in case you miss it. I appreciate both of you for kindness and vauling my work and featuring me on your posts.
Make as many tags as possible so a greater audience can find your post .
Scheduling Posts is a great way to get a head start and make sure a post will go up at a reasonable time to be seen by others. TIP: WordPress uses UTC (Coordinated Universal Time). So you will have to look up which UTC time correlates to the time you want your post to go live.
Listing your whole post in someone’s comments. Hello? What is that about? Acknowledge the writer you are commenting about. DO NOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT POST YOUR POST IN THEIR COMMENTS. It’s like showing up at a party you weren’t invited too! If you are one that does this, go online immediately and order an etiquette book or just take my word for it; it’s damn straight annoying.
Writing too much in a day:
Knock yourself out if that’s what you love to do and there are some writers that turn things out that are awesome every time. I can’t figure out how they can do this but they are a faucet connected to the powers that be which is commendable. But if I’m to be completely honest, I don’t want to see you show up with umpteen posts that require my attention. I want to like all of it because you’re so good but I just don’t have time. I want to like everyone of them but begin to feel overwhelmed because as your following grows you have limited time and I personally want to see all of my followers work. Posting 1-5 times a week is about right, again IMHO.
Apologizing for being gone. It’s not like anyone or most really care, seriously as much as is said about posting regularly etc. While there is some truth to that, come back with no apologies. You owe it to yourself to do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself.
Now, if you are going to be gone for awhile or on a break, it is nice to let people know because some of us legitimately care and will worry about you or wonder if all is well.
Ragging and brain dumping
It’s like getting a call from someone and before you even say hello the person goes straight into emoting and throwing up without as much as a hello or a breath.
We hear that all day long. On the news, from people, t.v. etc. Give us the lesson, what you’re dealing with, how you’re struggling or share something of meaning. We all get that because we all struggle and are working on growing, learning etc but ADD to our day, don’t just throw your garbage onto someone else’s page so you can get rid of it. Words have power so mindfully choose how you want to affect people.
Word Press Glitches
Not being able to edit because you’re in classic or block and cannot get out.
You’re almost done with your likes, comments and shares and somehow you can’t hit the like button. I have heard many things from too many people on the internet at that time, or you can only like so many at a time. I don’t know but if you know, I’d be so grateful if you would tell me.
Care to add to this list?
In closing I just want to say thanks for all of your support by reading my posts, commenting and sharing your heart with me. It has been a great honor getting to know so many of you and it truly makes my day to see you have visited and see your comments!
We as a community educate, enlighten and give voice to so many topics and I have personally grown so much reading your posts.
Have a wonderful holiday however you spend it and remember, we are almost there and we can say hello to 2021.
I will be on a break from writing posts because I think I will get kicked out from my family if I don’t 🤣 😝 but I’ll be back the second week of January and will definately be checking in on your writing. Hopefully, I can do this!!!
Thanks for reading and liking (if you do of course), commenting and or sharing if you are inclined.
If I buy you a diamond ring, silks and gold so you drip in jewels does that mean I love you more than if I give you an orange from my garden or write a poem from my soul and trace hearts on your body?
If I fly you to the moon and back and buy you a star in the galaxy, will you know how much I love you?
If I sit and hold your hand and chat about what you’re feeling to let you know I care would that be enough or would you wish you were Jupiter?
If you watch me flying off the trapeze doing circles in the air and land on my feet, would you not put me on a pedestal or think I’m crazy?
If I’m walking down the street and I fall on my face, would you pick me up and hold me and still think I amazing?
What will let you know much I really love you?
Do I have to turn myself inside out like a pretzel until I break so you know?
Would you eat me or let me be?
Do I have to give up me for you to know I love you?
I guess we’ll have to take that chance and see because no matter how much I care and love you, I just have to be me and so do you.
I hope whatever you do for the holiday season, you remember the meaning of the season and enjoy your time however you spend it. I know some of you are alone which is challenging but see if you can do something special just for you. Remeber even when others are with their families it can be challenging as well. Gifts given with heart and intention are the best ways to show your love whether it’s a hunk of a diamond, or a gift from your garden or heart.
“Of course I say, that’s how life is; change is the only thing there is”.
He shoots me a stare, a snarl and a shake of his head,
I look at him in disbelief.
Neither are right or wrong but change is inevitable; and he is right;
They say woman marry men, hoping they’ll change,
And men marry women, hoping they’ll never change.
Is it that woman went along more, when love was new?
Or is it that they finally found their voice and speak up more as they bloom?
I’ve always spoken my truth but was always busy pleasing others, never asking questions.
That’s what mothers, daughters and wives do.
Put off me to be there for you.
He loves watching sports (any sport on T.V.) or on the radio,
However, I could care less.
I would rather listen to quiet music, meditate, hike and write.
Men are easy; Give them a sandwich and sex and they’ll follow you anywhere.
Women want to talk.
Just ask my son. His first sentence was “Mom too many words”
I’ve done it all from work to birthing babies, having umpteen pets, traveled with the 6 of us all over the world, hosted lavish parties with all the decorations. Cooked great food and concocted amazing drinks and now I’m content to sit in the void while those spin around me.
I’ve changed, it’s true.
I love my peace and quiet.
Clean floors don’t interest me much, nor does shopping for material objects or having meaningless conversations.
Don’t get me wrong,
I love a clean house and delicious food, and drink,
I just don’t want to execute and do it anymore.
And you should know, so when you come home to visit, you’re not disappointed when your Christmas stockings are empty and there aren’t many boxes and I’m not cooking up a storm.
You’ll find me early in the morning in the moonlight writing, quiet as a mouse, dancing or singing and ready to play a game, take a hike or jump on the bike.
I’ve changed so I hope you enjoy the memory of the mother, friend, daughter, wife that you once knew and can appreciate who I am now. If you can’t, I understand.
I love you all no matter what, but it’s important you know;
And I’ll keep changing and so will you.
Maybe the mother you once knew will reemerge like the butterfly from the cocoon,
But who knows, I’ve changed.
Nothing is set in stone.
Besides, the best gift is time spent and memories made and shared, not material gifts.
This was writen before I experienced the complete shift with my adult children coming home for Thanksgiving in a way that I have never seen before. I suppose all of my warnings have paid off. As they are starting to pile in for the holidays, it is always a gift to my heart. Have a beautiful day. Thanks so much for visiting today and hope you enjoyed this and gave you permission to listen to your inner voice.
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Last Friday Mrs. Doubtfire, aka Robin Williams, was dancing with her broom on my page and this week I am because Harry celebrated his birthday. YAY!!! I thought he was going to be 14 but when I looked up his birth certificate, I was shocked I was a whole year off and he was actually 13. That sounds about right with this time warp we’ve been in. I’m sticking with birthdays don’t count this year because we barely used them in Covid but I am happy we got to celebrate him and confident we will share one last Christmas together.
As the days have been leading up to his birthday, we have had many talks about what we should do for his birthday. I don’t know about you, but we have invited other friends dogs in and had birthday parties over the years, gone to the beach etc, but that’s not happening right now.
Remember, Harry can’t walk and his front legs have now given out on him so he has to be carried everywhere with a special strap around both his front end and back end. I’ts called helpem harness up and we couldn’t have survided without it for the last 18 months. It has been a God send. He barks throughout the day to let you know what he needs and is up 2-4 times in the night to go out to go to the bathroom. My husbands a saint. If you’ve ever had a geriatric dog you get how exhausting and back breaking it is and it takes it’s toll. It’s so sad and breaks your heart and you would do anything for them including putting them down if they were suffering or in pain. Harry is still happy to eat and be with us and tells us when he needs to go out, drink water, move positions etc. We all love and adore him but it’s hard to get much done with his incessant demands and we find ourselves trying to pawn him off on the other person.
This is how our conversation went one night at dinner.
“So what are we going to do for Harry’s Birthday”?
“Let’s give him his favorite meal and a bone”?
“Good idea but no he might have diarrhea all day”.
“Well, we can take him on a stroller ride”.
“Great idea, we’ll do that”.
And it went on and on.
And then my husband said “Well, we could put him down”.
We all just roared in comic relief. While it might sound brutal, if you have ever had a geriatic pet or loved one that is dependent on you for their every need, you will get this. If you haven’t gone through this, you might not be able to get the humor. It takes it’s toll and you need breaks and relief. While we love him so much and it’s painful, we have adapted to his new normal. It takes so much patience, love, dedication and honestly most people we know would have put him down a year ago. But he is still happy to eat and be with us which is our criteria for him having a good quality of life, painstaking as it is, and we will savor the moments we have left together, until we know it’s time to say goodbye.
Thanks so much for visiting today and do something fun for yourself. I will be posting until next week Thursday and then am going on a hiatus of a device free holiday just to give you a heads up.
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I flutter from one bush to the other like the hummingbird not knowing which nectar to taste first and they all look good.
Not one looks better than the other in this mad rush to have it all. I’m dizzy, running around for the sweetness of each tiny taste not wanting to miss anything.
In the meantime I’m lost. I want it all. I don’t want to drop anything out but my belly has filled till explosion.
Pretty soon I’m drunk with the nectar and feel drugged and my senses have stopped asking for more but my body moves constantly, never pausing to enjoy the sweetness I have devoured.
For in the haste and busyness, I have lost touch with my inner message. But then as I pause to take a drink, my friend the eagle swoops down on me and we ride and soar.
Thanks so much for the visit today! Wishing you a beautiful day with time to savor moments and your souls yearnings. Please remember to like (if you do of course), share and or comment if you are inclined.
Blessings while you taste the sweetness today brings.
As we celebrate the holidays and roast and toast; each in our own Covid bubbles this year, I am reminded of an old classic story that many of you will remember. If it’s new to you, I hope you enjoy it. I always love the sentiments and truths the story provides.
As the story goes;
One day after school a young girl noticed that her mom was cutting off the ends of a pot roast before putting it in the oven to cook for dinner. The young girl asked her mother, “Mom, why do you cut the ends off the pot roast?” Her mother replied, “Because grandma always did, but I’m not really sure, why don’t you ask her”. So the young girl called her grandmother on the phone and said, “Grandma why do you cut the ends off the pot roast before cooking it?” Her grandmother replied, “I don’t know, I did it because my mother did it. Sorry, I can’t help you, maybe your should call Great Grandma”. So, she called her great grandma in the nursing home and ask her and she said “well, when grandpa and I got married we had a very small oven and the pot roast wouldn’t fit in the oven so I had to cut it off“.
Finally, the mystery was solved. Often we do things on automatic piolet, never questioning where ideas and beliefs come from and continue on the same trajectory, even when they are obsolete.
The moral of the story might be a little different for each of us.
For me it reminds me that’s things aren’t always as they appear.
1. Let’s STOP BEFORE we believe things and examine if they are true for us or not.
2. Ask More Questions
3. Be Curious
4. Never Assume
How ever, you spend your holiday, enjoy it in your own unique way, ask questions, revist truths that have served you at one time but may not be appropriate anymore. Adjust where needed, keeping an open mind which allows for things to unfold.
Cheers while you Roast and Toast,
Thanks for the visit, liking (if you do), commenting and or sharing,
It’s Fri-Yay Funday and time to do something fun even if it’s turning up the music and dancing with your broom. Seriously, I actually do this or drag my cat or dog for a dance. 🤣 Turn up the music, kick up you heels and hit it. Yes, dance like no one is watching!
So, I looked up the definition of fun on Google because they know everything right?
But, it works for my post so I’m going with it.
You will find many more fun versions on other sites if you care to pull it up.
Fun is defined by the Oxford English Dictionary as “Light-hearted pleasure, enjoyment, … An 18th century meaning (still used in Orkney and Shetland) was ” cheat, trick, hoax”, a meaning still retained in the phrase “to make fun of”. The landlady …
DOES THAT SOUND LIKE FUN TO YOU?
NOT! Well, the light hearted pleasure, enjoyment is nice but cheat, trick, hoax… not so much!
Riding on my new red Specialized bike just in time for Christmas. It’s fire engine red just like my vintage Venus bike only loaded with all the bells and whistles; SCORE!
16 gears on the handles to get me up hills, A perfect fit, adjusted specifically to a tee for my weight and height.
It rides smoothly and shifting gears is a piece of cake. The wind is at my back, the sun shines on my face, a perfect replacement and my butt’s not sore.
My son took me to check it out on a Facebook add he saw. He made sure that it fit my body right, examined all its parts so sweet right?!!!!!
And then he said “Ok mom that’ll be 350.00 which was an amazing price for this 1,000 bike.| I happily handed over the money and he said “I think Kristal’s going to love this”.
WTF?!!!!!!!! Yes, I’m Seeing Red!
Good thing I love Kristal so much and for the record, he paid for the bike but I have to say, I was pretty excited for a minute.
Have a great Friday and weekend whatever you do! It doesn’t cost anything to laugh and will lift your spirits. Thanks as always for visiting, liking (if you do, of course), commenting and or sharing.