Roast and Toast

As we celebrate the holidays and roast and toast; each in our own Covid bubbles this year, I am reminded of an old classic story that many of you will remember. If it’s new to you, I hope you enjoy it. I always love the sentiments and truths the story provides.

As the story goes;

One day after school a young girl noticed that her mom was cutting off the ends of a pot roast before putting it in the oven to cook for dinner. The young girl asked her mother, “Mom, why do you cut the ends off the pot roast?” Her mother replied, “Because grandma always did, but I’m not really sure, why don’t you ask her”. So the young girl called her grandmother on the phone and said, “Grandma why do you cut the ends off the pot roast before cooking it?” Her grandmother replied, “I don’t know, I did it because my mother did it. Sorry, I can’t help you, maybe your should call Great Grandma”. So, she called her great grandma in the nursing home and ask her and she said “well, when grandpa and I got married we had a very small oven and the pot roast wouldn’t fit in the oven so I had to cut it off“.

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Finally, the mystery was solved. Often we do things on automatic piolet, never questioning where ideas and beliefs come from and continue on the same trajectory, even when they are obsolete.

The moral of the story might be a little different for each of us.

For me it reminds me that’s things aren’t always as they appear.

1. Let’s STOP BEFORE we believe things and examine if they are true for us or not.

2. Ask More Questions

3. Be Curious

4. Never Assume

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How ever, you spend your holiday, enjoy it in your own unique way, ask questions, revist truths that have served you at one time but may not be appropriate anymore. Adjust where needed, keeping an open mind which allows for things to unfold.

Cheers while you Roast and Toast,



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108 thoughts on “Roast and Toast

  1. Hahaha! What a lovely / funny story!!! It’s NEW to me <3
    We all have these types of family anecdotes… and it's really fun when you realize it!

  2. I am gonna share this story. True that sometimes we do things automated and we don’t why we do??? Loved the end points that you shared! Let’s examine and let’s never assume! Thank you for sharing this important post today. Love to you Cindy. ❤️❤️

    1. So glad you liked it! I hear a lot of stories like we all do and this one always sticks front and center of my mind because of those lessons Preethes! Glad it spoke to you! Thanks so much1 💕 love back to you!❤️

  3. I learned of this years ago, when our whole IT team read, Robert J. Kriegel and Brandt’s book:
    Sacred Cows Make the Best Burgers: Developing Change-Ready People and Organizations. Excellent stuff!

  4. That’s such a funny story. I heard it told about cooking a ham. Either way, your point is well-made, never assume! I’m going to reblog this on my blog. Winter holidays are a great time to share traditions – even if only by zoom. 🙂

  5. Reblogged this on Marsha Ingrao – Always Write and commented:
    Cindy tells a funny story and draws some great lessons from it that you can apply if you are getting together with friends and family over the holidays – even by Zoom or drive-by. What funny stories, memories, or traditions tickle your funny bones today?

    My favorite grandma like to control things in her little kitchen. Fortunately her mother had a sense of humor about it when Grandma grabbed the butter out of Great-grandma’s hands and wrangled a place for it in the stuffed refrigerator.

    Great-grandma laughed her infectious laugh, and said, “I guess I don’t know how to put butter away properly.”

    Mom and I stayed out of Grandma’s kitchen on holidays until given a simple/approved chore – something easier than putting away the butter.

    1. Thanks so much Marsha!!
      Yours is hysterical which make me think if a great one with my MIL.
      These stories are the fabric that bind us as families, make us cringe, laugh, and fill of emotions. At the end there is love-:)💕❤️

  6. I really loved the story Cindy. For me this was something related to an old story of my house too. Whenever we ate cucumbers my parents would cut the end of the cucumber and rub it with salt on the cut portion of the cucumber. They said that it makes the cucumber sweet and if there’s any sourness in it, it will go away. I asked them what was the logic behind it and they were clueless. Just as you said things might not look what they actually are and we sometimes might mistake them with something else. 😇
    Thank you for sharing the story. 😇

    1. I’m so glad Kumar and thanks for adding it it with your cucumber story. So what did you notice with the cucumber? Did it work for you or is it just in their imagination?
      I always pour salt on the eggplant to get the bitterness out because I’ve been told to and I’m no scientist so I just do it because I hear it in every recipe by every chef. Now you have me thinking, You know all about us overthinkers. LOL!! ❤️

  7. This happens to us often. Without any reason, we blindly imitate or follow something.Some even consider it to be a tradition😊☺
    Such a lovely and important post.Thanks for sharing❤

  8. In Zen and Tao it’s called great doubt. I see that, in part, as actually questioning the processes of doing anything. It’s amazing but the story applies to belief’s and language. So I ask, “Is this my belief or one I inherited?” Thanks for this. Take care of you.

    1. You are so kind!!! Thank you so much 😊 I’m gonna try to wrap up the year with them if I can… please know that and Amy but not sure I’ll get to it. I am honored! 💕

  9. Cindy, wonderful story! Thanks for posting. I had not heard it before! My question is, What did the grandmas do with the ends of the roast, make soup? Feed the dog? 🙂 I am sure there are many practices handed down through the generations that go unquestioned. Time to start asking questions! All the best! <3

    1. Oh so glad I shared it then Cheyrl!!! Now therein lies the question!!!! Hmmm I’m not a pot roast fan so mine would go to the dogs but yes; questions are good. Have a great day! 💕🥰

  10. Soo funny .the version of the story I heard was why people cut the bacon strips in half was so it would fit in the frying pan 😂 excellent reminders of not assuming and always asking questions to make sure we have clarification.have a safe, happy day and stay well 💕

    1. Wow, it sounds like there are lots of versions floating around. I wonder what would happen if we took the two hearts of the roast your bacon on the cucumbers and made something with them? And remembering not to assume until we trade it. If anyone could do it it would be you. Have a great day yourself and thanks for checking in❤️

  11. That was a profound story! We often forget why we do what we do😂, especially if it’s a family tradition. I loved the message too!✨
    Here’s to hoping that the ‘covid’ bubble bursts soon!😂💕

  12. Great post mom! And some great take aways. I learned to take the keen wisdom of adults with a grain of salt early age – the day that the baby sitter ran straight into an oncoming semi truck heading up our street (we were only going 5-10 MPH luckily). It made me stop to think – maybe adults aren’t perfect either.

    1. Thanks so much Garrett! It means so much to me that you read it. That story just terrifies me when I think back to this and shutter at the the thought thst something could have happened to you. What a valuable lesson to learn about adults early on so you could listen to your own internal gage which you do so well! No wonder “you are strong like bull”. Love you so much!
      ❤️ Mom

  13. Oh how much I love your roast and toast Cindy, a wise moral of the story. We believe and follow blindly without even knowing the logic, outcome or even what we will go through pursuing that very idea. We just be a part of herd. Story seems funny and sweet but the thought it evokes is deep.
    Thank you so much for sharing Cindy 😊🥰 hugs and love 🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️

    1. So glad you like it Samreen! Yes, it is such a fun sweet story with such a lovely deep message, I agree. I’m realy glad I shared it as I had no idea how many people haddn’t heard it. We continue to =need reminders to listen deepply to our inner voice of truth. ❤️🤗🥰 xo Hugs and love back1 ❤️🤗❤️🤗

      1. I did of course as I haven’t heard it before 😊 Certainly, we need reminders every now and then to realise where are we heading to. 💖 Have a wonderful rest of your day,🌹🌹🌹 it’s good night for me 😀😴
        Take care 🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️😘😘

      2. Oh that’s awesome because often we assume things. Good I didn’t in this case. I will Samreen and see you refreshed tomorrow. You sure go to bed late! ❤️ Cindy xoxoxo 🌷

      3. Yes, assumptions should not be turned into beliefs😀 A very good morning to you (you must be sleeping i know) 🌞😘🥰❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗

    1. Hi Murali,
      Sooo good to see you. I knew you would. It reminded me of something you would write. You are so right about that! It’s always a delight to hear from you, thank you! How are you doing? ❤️Cindy

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