I know it’s the love week but before we can let love in, we have to make space inside to receive it. I have been having more and more profound experiences of letting go and wanted to share my insights with you. This is longer than a lot of my posts to give you forewarning so feel free to skim and take what suits you; but if letting go is an issue for you, read on until the end.
“When you walk away from something or someone, you walk towards yourself”
“Letting to go is easier said than done
I see the imprints of my nails dug into my hands
As I say the words; Let Go
Give it up, release it, surrender, move on
Any of those words have the same response on my nervous system”.
Ever notice as soon as you say the words let go, you dig in a little more and even your toenails curl under.
Shoulders tighten jaw clenches, muscles move into spasm.
Or maybe you say the words “I’ve let go” but deep down you know you’ve done nothing of the sort.
So why bother to try to let go at all? The real question is how do you do it truly, instead of just uttering the words.
It’s a lot like saying “don’t think of the elephant in the room”. What’s the first thing you think of?
The elephant, of course and we all know this to be true.
So, how do you actually do it?
There are so many self help books written on the subject and they’re all really good. It takes lots of practice and practice makes perfect as we know. But friends, I’ll be the first to tell you; it ain’t easy and if it was, there wouldn’t be so many books on the subject.
Here’s the list you’ll always see in books to conquer letting go:
- Visualize yourself letting go in your minds eye and releasing it up in a balloon out to sea etc
- Meditate by taking some deep breaths and stay in the present moment focusing on a candle or a mantra.
- Say your affirmations over and over in your mind
- Burn what you want to let go of
- Throw rocks in a pond
- Do Yoga or exercise
- Write in your journal
- Listen to music it changes your brain
- Go to therapy or see a life coach to find the underlying cause
- Go on vacation
- Move: Ever notice, wherever you go, there you are? There’s even a book on this.
- Color or draw or splatter paint.
- Accept yourself right where you are and let go of self loathing.
Take a few minutes to add to the list so you can make it your own.
- Pick 1 or 2 of these and start practicing one of these modalities every day for 5 minutes and do it 2 or 3 times if you can. Do this for a month and see this issue resolved. Of course it truly depends on the incident in your life that you are trying to let go of. There are obviously some that have a much greater pull on your heartstrings.
2. The other thing is to just accept that you aren’t there yet! We know Rome wasn’t built in a day but
we are so impatient.
Be gentle with yourself while you practice this new skill of letting go. Start letting go of little things first and say “as I let go, I free up space to be more of who I am now. I am safe, secure and happy”. Write that somewhere where you can see it everyday and make it your mantra.
I promise you the more you practice the better you get, until you can walk away from the drama and upset of others you no longer need or want in your life. This is so freeing and a breath of fresh air. We do our best to be loving and kind but we can’t please everyone. Remember, people are processing their own internal issues and most often it has nothing to do with you. We are each mirrors for one another to reflect back what internal work we need to do on ourselves. People often can’t see the part they play and it’s easier to place blame and become victims, rather than take responsibility for our own shortcomings..
“When you walk towards yourself you might feel afraid. Heart racing, temperature elevating, clammy palms or hands, throat gripping and that’s ok. A part of you wants to flee, but can you just be with yourself like a mother holds her baby in a colic fit with no judgement; just love? Love will set you free”.
Notice the sensations and just be with them and take a deep breath. Become a silent observer of your mind, body, spirit and actions and hold yourself lovingly and kindly. It will pass but you have to face and accept your feelings as they are in the moment. That is when true acceptance and change takes place. It will become second nature at some point but it starts with a simple shift of thought and action.
Start now, practice and celebrate your small wins.
Many of you know the heartache I’ve been going through with seeing our geriatric dog Harry, through his final days. Some of you might be thinking, “Gosh, we’re so tired of hearing about it, why doesn’t she put him down already”. Or others might be feeling the same thing about something in your life, so you empathize with what I’m going through. We only see through our own lens cap and know our own suffering.
We had an emergency scare the other night when his legs involuntarily started flailing everywhere and we thought he might be having a seizure and started panicking. I called all of our vets including our emergency vet with no luck. We were beside ourselves and I suddenly remembered someone in the family’s ex husband was a vet. In our desperation I picked up the phone and called his daughter to get his number. In seconds I got a text from her mother saying “this made all of us uncomfortable; next time call me”. I apologized profusely and explained we were reaching out because we were desperately trying to help Harry in case we had to put him down. As you most likely know in Covid, they won’t let you go in with your pet and we couldn’t imagine not being with Harry during his last breath. Her next text was “You made my daughter very uncomfortable, plenty of vets in the area” (her daughter is an adult mind you). My first reaction was anger and I quickly let it go. Emergencies do that for us and in a split second I moved on to Harry’s needs. I gave him some CBD and that did the trick and he slept soundly through the night.
I dropped the anger instantaneously and only felt sad that she was still hanging on to such upset. There was no question of me walking towards this drama and I simply didn’t respond back and walked away in love and kindness. It was over for me and there was no pull to clear it up etc. I could just walk away and take care of me and Harry and know I had the highest intentions for my dog with no malintent to her family.
In the old days, I may have tried to go back and clean up a mess that wasn’t mine to begin with, which could have made more entanglement and after all I did apologize. If you are an empath, or you had to get approval from your parents so they would finally see you, you tend to think everything is your fault. We know when we hold anger and resentment, we only hurt ourselves and moving forward without casting stones is always the right answer and I felt good about that.
“And when love sets you free, you can truly let go and you feel it in your bones, your psyche, your tissues and your spirit. Something more beautiful will enter your life. It always does. Let Go and Feel the Love”.
Congratulate yourself for honoring your truth without creating more drama and upset that was never yours to begin with. There is something very powerful in sharing your truth in love and letting go. We never know how the other person processes things, nor is it our job to “fix others”. By caring for our needs deeply we give everyone around us a chance to resolve their own issues and heal whatever it is that they need to heal when and if they are ready.
As for Harry, I found out the next day that the vet will let 2 of us go with him to say farewell when the unfortunate day comes to send him to the rainbow bridge, but he’s not ready yet..this moment anyway.
Keep walking towards yourself in freedom and love!
“When you walk away from something or someone, you walk towards yourself”.
When you walk towards yourself you might feel afraid. Heart racing, temperature elevating, clammy palms or hands, throat gripping and that’s ok. A part of you wants to flee, but can you just be with yourself like a mother holds her baby in a colic fit with no judgement; just love? Love will set you free.
And when love sets you free, you can truly let go and you feel it in your bones, your psyche, your tissues and your spirit. Something more beautiful will enter your life. It always does, let go and feel the love”.
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Thanks so much for visiting today and reading. I do hope there was some useful information for you while you are getting ready to do some housecleaning so you can let go and let love in. You deserve it!
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Feel the love that you are and let your heart shine. If not now when?
Blessings of Love,