As you can see, I’m late for my “Fri-Yay What the Hey” post today and the direction has changed a little bit. It’s gotten long to warn you but I had to regroup. Isn’t that what life’s about? Sometimes I just wish it was predictable but not today and it would take the surprise and fun out of it. Let’s just say it keeps us on our toes. It’s been a busy week with lots of events and fun starting with my daughter flying in from New York with her boyfriend to celebrate a childhood friends wedding. I told her with Covid outbreaks to stay home but this is one of her best friends from growing up and our families are all friends so she couldn’t pass it up after they already cancelled it the year before.
We’re always thrilled to have everyone under one roof and I’ve given up on any form of order, so our house is turned upside down when they arrive in seconds. We’ve learned to go with the flow as busy bees buzz around, night owls are up til all hours playing games, watching movies and just hanging out. Everyone pitches in shopping, cooking and cleaning which is awesome and can get cleaned up on a dime to move into the next event which is generally just my mom stopping in. We’re like a well oiled machine but I’d prefer a robot to run around after them so I could keep a clean house which gives me a sense of order; but at least I know that they are self sufficient grown adults that can work together and take care of themselves. And besides, if I started complaining, that would be a sure formula that they would never come home to visit. I always remember it will be quiet soon enough when they leave, so I better not miss the fun. Have you ever noticed, it’s all or nothing in life?
Ok, but I bet you’re here because you’re waiting for the SURPRISE that I mentioned I would share with you today right?
Well that and my wedding dress…. hahahaha❣️
Surprises remind me of a secret. The Secret by Rhonda Byrne was a best seller that flew off the shelves. It explains how the law of attraction, which states that positive energy attracts positive things into your life, governs your thinking and actions, and how you can use the power of positive thinking to achieve anything you can imagine. When I read it I was like “that’s no secret” because it was such common knowledge to me so I truly couldn’t figure out what all of the hype was about. However, to others it was an epiphany.
Like all surprises, secrets are unknown which peek your curiosity. Some of the excitement is truly about the build up and hype and then when you finally find out, it’s exciting for a minute and then you’re off looking for something else to draw your attention, fill the gap and distract you or gives you something to romanticize about. That’s kind of what the appeal for soap operas or movies are or a good book. Before it’s shared there is so much anticipation and that is what makes it all the more intriguing.
The night before the wedding we went to dinner outdoors at the best spot in town where our friends brother and sister in law are one of the owners at Rossotti’s Alpine Inn and they pulled out all the stops to create an incredible experience in food, music and toasts etc. Terrific job Deek and Lori❣️ It was all outdoors and a perfect night with a LOT of people. Everyone had to be vaccinated to attend and masking was optional but not for me. Being that I see clients hands on I masked and kept my distance. I’ve found that easy until I was with a group of friends that I know. Hearing is hard in groups to begin with and this was no exception and how do you have a cocktail or eat an appetizer on with a mask? You don’t.
I am generally quite comfortable in my own skin no matter where I am. There have been times when I haven’t been which is a whole other story but that’s too long to go into here. All of a sudden I felt a bit clammy, claustrophobic and my sudden instinct was to flee. I told my husband I would be going and not to hug anyone. He gave me the stink eye. It truly gave me appreciation for people who suffer daily from feeling different than others, isolated, suffer from anxiety, fear, claustrophobia etc. We have been masking forever but to be the the only in a mask separated me out and I had a hard time owning being different even though everyone else could care less whether I was or I wasn’t, just me. I’m generally a hugger but now a bower. It’s tough on other people around us when we change as well because they are used to how we’ve always been before and everyone has to adapt. How often do we give up our own standards because we can’t handle feeling the uncomfortableness of our feelings? It’s truly a good exploration process in being true to ourselves. I decided I either needed to leave or make peace with it and in that moment a friend made a funny comment which diffused things for me. I took off my mask and just stayed clear of people and was so happy I didn’t miss any of the great speeches.
So back to the surprise…. when secrets are being kept, tensions get high, fights break out like my daughter and I experienced, you’re feeling on edge, riled up, excited but trying to act normal and now you don’t even know what normal feels like.
But first I did tell you I would share the dress I wore to the wedding with you. I went with the coolest dress I could find since it was pretty hot out. The wedding was everything you would hope for in a wedding. It was meaningful, the vows were so touching and tender, the day couldn’t have been more perfect with a great location, music, company and food. The bride was STUNNING and the GROOM so handsome and they’re as nice as they are beautiful. We are so lucky to live in a small community with such loving and supportive friends.
My son showed up to the after party at 1:30 a.m. (who does this?) to see his 2 best friends who were brothers of the bride above and we got home at 2:30 a.m. I was in meditation in child’s position in my dress on the floor snoring. The morning came early with more to plan and do which I found out without much warning so we moved into gear and rallied for yet another event which I planned to share with you today but as we all know …………………………………………………………………………………………
I thought the cat would be out of the bag by now but it’s not my secret to share………..
Sorry to get you going there but how do you think I felt?❣️🤣
Have a great weekend what ever you do. Now I am truly going to collapse into the weekend and be a couch potato and promise I’ll share the news when I’m granted permission.