Blogging is Not our whole life but it does bring connection and friendship and makes our life whole.Cindy
They’re real friends to me.
How about you?
I mean where else would anyone that doesn’t blog understand you?
The fact is they don’t and to be fair how can you blame them?
If I think back to before I started blogging, I would have probably felt the same way. In the big scheme of life, blogging is just an aspect of our lives but not our whole life, although, it can be quite consuming. It does bring meaning and connection from like minded people that understand us and that in and of itself is huge. The pandemic was a perfect time to start blogging if you started then because we were in lock down 24 7 and it gave us ways to connect when we were stuck at home.
Although I started blogging 7 years ago, it was for clients or a travel log so I could have a place to store memories but I had no idea of what I had really gotten myself into.
It sat dormant and then when the pandemic started it took on a life of its own and gave me an outlet to put all of my thoughts and feelings on paper and connect with people all over the world along with Zoom being front and center as well.
I grew to love the connections I made and couldn’t wait to hear what my friends had to say everyday. We grew close and our exchanges were real and genuine, until all of a sudden some of them would disappear into thin air and I was crushed. I used to reach out and see how they were and check in one by one until they were gone completely which always left me a little sad and it still does. I can still remember each of their names and our conversations. As a matter of fact i’m thinking of a few of you right now and i’m hoping you’re ok and doing well.
This happens in real life too. People move, we change careers, schools, get married, have kids, get divorced which all change our circle of friends and acquaintances.
But for the most part, people that don’t blog… our friends in the flesh, think we’re a little touched, weirdos, we have no real friends and we’re just wasting our time.
But wait, don’t they know how much money we’re making? Haha! Ok.for you newby’s out there reading for the first time, I didn’t pay for my house through blogging or even a pack of gum.
Not me anyway, I actually pay to keep ads off of my blog. So, if you’re reading this because you think blogging is a get rich quick scheme, you’re barking up the wrong tree so feel free to stop reading now and find those blogs that will deceive you into thinking you can and gladly take your money to help you learn. I’m just telling you like it is.
If you are like me, blogging is just an extension of what you do because sharing your message with the world is a calling.
So next time you get a lot of flack from your friends in the flesh just sluff it off. They’ll never get us, I mean how could they, especially when they hear we don’t get paid. Each of us have our own motivations for blogging but one that is universal among us, is our passion and connections that we build.
Who feels your pain when you have a snafu? Certainly not your in the flesh friends and the issues happen more times than we would like as we all know.
Either word press glitches, they change something and we haven’t a clue what to do. We end up in spam, we have a post published and all of sudden it changes and we scramble in a mad dash like it’s the end of the world. 😂
We know it’s not true but I don’t know about you, but I panic when that happens cuz I do my best to adhere to schedules, stay on track, chart my progress, check my stats at times, schedule posts, write, read, organize and my head goes in circles at times, when I can’t get it all just the way I want.
And then there are those times when we have to regroup on a minute’s notice and get something else up and running. Well to be clear we don’t have to, but if we want to keep our algorithms and SEO happy, it behooves us to do so. That’s a blog in and of itself and trust me I’m no expert on this but do visit Pooja at LifesFineWine who takes the mystery out of SEO and is really helpful and has and article SEO for Dummies.
So, when I’m sitting talking about you to my friends in the flesh at home and they look at me rather strange and scratch their head thinking I’m deranged and say “you’ve got to be kidding”. I look at them and I want to say but don’t, “of course they are lame brain, they know exactly what I’m talking about”. I mean who knows better the pains of our plight or writing in the middle of the night, editing, spell checking, research etc. than my blogging friends that are real to me.
These are the times my friends in the flesh don’t get me and never will.
So today, I just wanted to take this opportunity to let you know how much I value you and am happy that you get me and I get you and we are friends.
The only thing we can’t do is give each other a hug or slap each other in the face but then we wouldn’t have to because the one in front of us is the only one that deserved that mighty blow that doesn’t get us, not you.
Not cool Will Smith much as I love you! Now put on your big boy pants and apologize to Chris Rock.
Come on people now set an example in our world! No act of violence is justified nor should be tolerated especially by those of you that are influential in our world.
Thanks for sharing your time with me today. It was one of those mornings for me in regrouping and moving into another direction than planned. Remember that life is unpredictable and you are resilient and have the ability to pick up the pieces and move forward so don’t let anything get in you way of shining your light and love. I never ask you to do what I don’t expect of myself. Some Days we might choose to put the cover back over our heads and go to bed but most days I forge ahead like today and encourage you to do the same.