Wednesday was my mom’s 86th birthday as know if you read my post Monday. Today we will reenact the fun with my friends and one of my daughters for lunch thanks to our hostess with the mostest. It has been an annual event for the past 7 years and a highlight of her year.
30 years ago I bought my mom a Mother ring with rubies set in 18 carat gold with about 8 stones. At the time she had 7 grandchildren and now has 10.
It was stunning and she just loved it.
About 12 years ago, she went to put it on, and it wasn’t in the spot she swears she put it in. After tearing the house apart, she deemed it stolen by her housecleaner. She was so upset and I’m personally not convinced it was stolen but it was gone and she might be right after all; but we’ll will never know for sure. We’ve all been there and know the feeling of misplacing or losing something which is horrible, that we continue the search, long after we know it’ gone. My husband’s wedding ring was stolen by a staff member when he was house sitting after 5 years of saving for it so I feel her pain. He finally came clean that his friend did it, but we never got the ring back. OUCH!
Last year I decided I would surprise her and have a ring made and try to copy it as best as I could by memory. I have a friend that has a family owned business for of 50 years so I went to him to help design the piece that I had in my head.
Just before Mother’s Day I met my mom at Starbucks and had a “chance meeting” with my friend and he brought a mold I had him design with the closet memory of it, I had in my mind.
He walked by us and said hello and I introduced him to her and he sat down. My mother always says “I can’t go anywhere with you without you knowing someone”. She’s probably right and was a bit annoyed at first and confused and then I had him present the ring.
She was thrilled and it was a lot of fun as you can see by the smile behind the mask.
In this way we could design it together and she could have exactly what she wanted. There is cute video I can’t find of him saying “will you take this cracker jacks ring made of plastic and be-wed”.
He also noticed a prong was missing on her pinky finger ring and said she could lose the diamond and asked if she would she like him to fix it. She said “sure”. The plan was to have it done on her birthday lunch so she could show her new rings off.
Here is the picture of the ring he took that was a special ring with the Unity Symbol from church she wore everyday and loved! It was priceless to her.
The symbol was devised by our founder, ERNEST HOLMES (1887-1960), who used it to diagram what he meant by the “descent of Spirit into form,” or the creative process in the individual. You’ll find it on pages 568-574 of The Science of Mind, our main teaching textbook, first published in 1926. As shown above, the circle represents Infinite Mind, or God. Within that infinity is spiritual law. Law is accessed by each of us, first by our conscious awareness. Then we empower some of our thoughts with feeling (the subconscious medium). Thoughts surrounded by feeling become beliefs and our beliefs are creative of our experience of conditions, forms and effects. By developing a new belief in the goodness and givingness of life, each of us can manifest a new way of being in the world: greater happiness, harmony, prosperity, anything we can imagine. Consciously using the Law of Mind toward these ends, we contribute something positive into the collective belief system of all humankind, setting an intention of a higher good for.
The trouble is gold prices had gone up exponentially so there was no way to replicate 18 carat or even 14 carat without a little ingenuity. If you know me at all, I am creative and when I set my mind to something, I will find a way.
I had what I thought was a brilliant idea which was to melt down pieces of gold that were just sitting in my jewelry box. I took my father’s wedding ring (my mom and dad are great friends after the divorce 40 + years ago), her father’s wedding ring, a cufflink, a bracelet and a few small rings. I thought “how brilliant, now they can be part of her new ring and she can wear it “forever”.
We went in to his shop every week to tweek the ring and design it exactly the way she wanted and he made many changes and even redid it completely since she didn’t like how it felt on her finger and just wasn’t right.
And here is the redo and final ring:
So I was so excited to present it to her on her birthday lunch. I met Bob to pick it up and said and he gave me the ring we designed and I said “where is her pinky ring”?
He looked perplexed and went into a complete daze. He had a brain fade and said “Oh NO! I melted it down.”. Omg, omg, omg, NO!!!! I just told her it was coming and he scrambled to make a copy of the ring to the best of his ability and recollection with the one picture he had. At Xmas I decided to give it to her and as I thought it looked awesome. As soon as she got it she said “This is NOT my ring”.
I will not go into the fury she had. She was so mad justifiably but I will just say it was the year from hell and many trips to see Bob and him withstanding the heat while sparks flew and he continued sautering. I had to come completely clean but I seriously thought it was so good, she might never notice.
At the end of the day, she is wearing both rings with a smile on her face which is the main thing; but let’s just say I learned a valuable lesson.
You can’t replace what you once had no matter how hard you try so cut your losses and do yourself and others a favor….. don’t go there.
Even when you do your best you can fail with the best of intentions.
Don’t take things personally.
Time is money.
Avoid drama whenever possible.
No good deed goes unpunished.
Eyes rolling, beats heads rolling.
Bite your tongue, it works out in the end.
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From the Editor, Gabriela Marie Milton:
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I will be there and hope to see you there God willing I can get my technology up and running but it’s suppose to be really easy!
Happy Fri-Yayyyy my friends. Keep smiling through your adversities and laugh at your mistakes. They work out in the end.
And whatever you do, have a great Friday and weekending!
Always with love and a laugh or 2 especially on Friday because I’d rather die laughing than crying but in the end it’s a little bit of both.