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Good Monday (I hope) Morning to you if you are in my neck of the woods or afternoon or evening wherever this finds you on the globe.

I love to love!

I hate to hate.

I love our country

I hate what’s happening in the world right now.

But I’m not taking this worldwide today, I’m keeping this real and local with my very own Love Hate relationship I have with WordPress.

It’s very similar to my Love Hate relationship I have with Apple but again I’m keeping the focus on WP.

And I Hate that I am so inept and or they are in troubleshooting problems.

I so love that you were ALL here for me this weekend and I can’t begin to thank you, as I know how busy you all are, and I hated to bother you.

Wait! What weekend?!
I kid you not I spent All of
Fun Fri-Yay and Saturday and a lot of Sunday trying to troubleshoot problems on my last post and still haven’t gotten to the bottom of it with WP.

You’ve got to know if you mess with my Fun Fri-Yay, I’m not a happy camper. Alrighty, so on a scale of what’s happening in the world, this is peanuts I know, but it’s a waste of precious time all the way around but necessary when you are trying to get your word out in the world.

If you missed my post I’ve love for you to have a look Fun on Fri-Yay, The Catch, an Update and a Talk/ Meditation. Check out the video for the day on my last post and feel free to scroll through to the talk and meditation!

Yes my Love-Hate relationship with the “Happiness Engineers” continues.

I’ll just say this isn’t Disneyland and WP is usually my happy place because I get to see all of you which is one of my highlights but when you turn my Fun- Fri-Yay into a technological nightmare and Monopolize by weekend, I’ve got a problem.

YES, I’m complaining which I rarely do here, but I’m heated.

First off, I want to just say Thank you to all of you for taking time to check my Friday post and respond. I could tell my post wasn’t showing up in reader and I contacted WP pronto who said “everything was fine” and asked me for each person who said they couldn’t see me, which seemed like most of you. That’s when I started to connect with you all, to ask for help.

A resounding amount of you did NOT see me in Reader on Friday.

When we are active on our blog, we know what we know and who our friends/followers are, and they are often there just about as soon as we write for the most part.

Of course everyone has a schedule and comes when they can read, but it’s fishy, when you aren’t seeing any of them.

Let me be clear that WP is very kind and warm putting on there happy smile, but I pay you to get a job done and when the answers I get don’t match the comments I receive, we have a problem. Let’s just say, I trust you all, more than I do them. They made a point to tell me “many of the comments that say they are following you, aren’t and of course, I can divulge who they are.” I responded, Of course not, I wouldn’t expect that”.

Here are some of the comments
I got from them.

Here were my responses.

Here were some of yours which I appreciate. I’ve taken out names to keep this anonymous for everyone’s sake and I’m taking the heat.

Coming out and saying all of this, is a little bit like going to a restaurant and complaining at the risk of them spitting in your food. But one thing you can count on me for, is I Won’t Be Silenced which is one of my poems in Wounds I’ve Healed: Poetry of Strong Woman.

I wish I didn’t care about my blog this much but I do. Anything I choose to put my stamp on and work on in my life, is important to me and I do 100% and I expect people I am paying to do a job for me, to do the same thing.

To be clear, I do NOT get paid to blog. I do it for the love of it. I truly love our community and connection. But when it starts eroding at my time and chips away at my happy place, it’s time to reevaluate.

This wasn’t going to be a post about blogging, but I suppose it is somewhat and besides, I know that so many of you are having a lot of the same problems, so I’m speaking up for all of us.

We know to get followers it is important that you engage with your followers and read their work. It’s all about being reciprocal and finding people that you enjoy interacting with and learning from. This DOES increase your blog followers it’s true, and is important for newbies starting out to know.

You get out of it what you put into it, but that is NOT why I comment and share insights etc. I comment because I am genuinely interested in what you have to say. I don’t take for granted every like or comment someone gives me, as I know how much time it takes and I truly am grateful.

What I’ve learned:

You know what you know, if something is off with your post.

A few things you could try is to unfollow and follow people and they may show up in your reader or not but it’s worth a try.

Put on a notification if you want to make sure you get someone’s blog post.

Follow who you want to read regularly.

You can add them to your favorites.

If you can, I would appreciate you doing the above for me. Thank you so much.

If you are following a lot of people you may not see them right away.

Refresh Refresh Refresh!

Comment Comment Comment!

If you missed Priorhouse Post on Diana’s New Book coming soon read it as they have a good line about the importance of commenting. Besides, her new book looks amazing and you can put it in the queue to buy.

The reason commenting and relationships are so important is because if people don’t see you in reader they will see you commenting on their post or others and remember to look you up.

Here is a comment I received that speaks to this:

Hi Cindy
Thanks for taking the time to read and comment!
I must share that I NEVER see your posts in my reader and I have unfollowed and re-followed.
And the reason I get your posts is because you usually drop by to say hi on my blog!
And that ties in here because as Diana was offering tips – and the topic of commenting came up – Cindy – you also model the commitment to commenting and I want to mention that because it keeps you present!
“Out of sight – out of mind”
“Leaving a comment and it makes your presence known”-

You can’t tell me that WordPress like google, doesn’t have speed issues like this follower says

Thank you and no- I don’t recall seeing you in my
stream yesterday on WP. Seems WP has issues
like Google. Sometimes my mail shows up read or
delayed half a day. They need to stop fixing what

No. I didn’t see your post
yesterday. I am familiar with it. Not very often, but
sometimes it happened to me too. I believe there
is some sort of software issue with WordPress.

Here too actually! Not just you!


You are not in my reader today.

BTW WordPress has been driving me crazy.
It doesn’t help that I’ve had a couple of weird weeks.

Technology doesn’t like you much, I guess….I got
archived, or comments gone In spam or WP
misses you from reader@
You replied to this comment.

Here is an email and tip I just received from WP:

In reviewing the post, I see you are frustrated with your experience with our support. Please let us know if there’s anything else we can do specifically right now to make your WordPress.com experience better! As we mentioned before, while we can’t share details about your individual followers, we do recommend asking any followers who are not seeing your posts in the feed to navigate to their notification settings and making sure the updates are turned on from your site.

This guide has instructions on how they can turn on notifications:

Whew, now that I have that off my chest, may all of your problems be as small as this and resolved.

Take time for a reset and listen to my video from my last post if you have a chance. Again, no need to listen to the update just scroll through. If I can upload the short version later I will.

Have a wonderful Monday.
Thank goodness work starts today which is my sanity.

Take care of you, speak your mind, let it go but don’t let people off the hook. Stay your ground and do have a happy day.

Thank you WordPress for putting on your happy smile and please make us happy by getting the job done and the bugs worked out. We do appreciate your efforts but want results.

Stay Blessed and When in doubt blame WP or your mother or father… 😂😂😂. After all that’s what our kids do!



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1 year ago

I try to keep my use of WP as simple as possible. I’ve managed to stay away from the temptation to use most of their upgrades, unless absolutely necessary. Besides, I’d rather use my time for creative purposes instead of being buried under technology upgrades.

My Rollercoaster Journey
1 year ago

I’m so sorry you had trouble with WordPress. I honestly go into the reader once a month and save posts and when I get to a person who I read all of their blog posts, like you, I click on their profile on reader and save all the posts I haven’t read yet and then I binge read from the saved, like I’m doing now. Reading has become difficult for me in the past few months due to depression and now Covid, but I’m trying. It’s hard to comment. Most of the time I don’t know what to say or I’m too tired. I enjoy your updates as usual. It makes me feel like I’m with you.

Still the Lucky Few
7 months ago

I had some difficulty finding this window for comments. But now that I’m here, I’d like to say that I enjoy your blog tremendously!

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