Fun Friday, the joy, pain & sorrow.
Rise and shine buttercup.
It’s not a dress rehearsal, this life.
Dare to be brave, tip toe through the garden.
Ask and you’ll receive: Take each moment as you please.
Yesterdays over, tomorrow might not come, celebrate today!
Today is my Father In Laws 97th birthday. I don’t know about you, but if someone said to me, you will live until 97, I’d sign on the dotted line. There have been times, I hoped I’d just make it through another day during my most challenging times in life but now, I want to live forever. Ha!
It’s a great gift that he has lived such a vibrant life and a great sorrow to watch him suffer. To truly know joy, we must know suffering and to support someone in hard times, it’s often helpful if we have been there. That’s why most of the time when someone is giving birth, you want a woman in the room with you that knows and can look you in the eyes and say, “it’s ok, now push”. Men generally mean well, but fall short because they just want to fix things for you, so you don’t suffer. But when we don’t let things run their course, we miss out on some of the most invaluable gifts. When I’ve attended births, I’m often there for the men as much as for the woman.
So why am I bringing up birth on a birthday? Bare with me, I’m still sorting it out. It’s Fun Friday I know and I try to put the Yay in the day, but I’m feeling rather melancholy today. Maybe it’s that I’m realizing time is short for many of my parents, maybe it’s all of the bad news and I’ve tuned in more than I should. But it has seeped through my skin. I do focus on the amazing miracles coming out of the rubble but still, there is more sorrow than joy there as we know, right now. I am blessed I know, that but today, I am sad. Most likely, it’s about facing my own mortality.
We looked at a new facility, Gordon Manor, that will take my Father In Law and I’m delighted he will be right down the road from us, so we can see him more. It is a lovely place that many of my friends parents and clients spouses have gone, which feels just like home. There is even a Golden Retriever Gordon, named after the facility, Gordon Manor.
While on the tour, I remembered back to working in convalescent homes and the smell that eventually forced me out. I may have mentioned before that I was a Recreational Therapist and did all of the group ex and individual workouts with people. When someone died, they would put them in my office and between the smell and the dead bodies in my room, I left and got into the wellness part of the business.
I was struck by how much fun people were having in the group with a singer there entertaining them. Gordon was walking around as the greeter and his docile behavior at just 1 year old was surreal to me. I could have sworn he was at least 9. Most of the people I saw were wheelchair bound, but some walked by with their Valentine’s Day ears on they had just made in art class and couldn’t have been more delighted. It was sweet and tender. We walked outside and visited the chickens, a magnificent garden and fruit trees, where the birds were singing.
Before we left, we visited his possible room, where the daughter of a woman who just died the day before, was moving out and chatted with her for quite a long while. I asked if we could buy the chair and bed from her and she offered to give it to us. We all had masks on but when we were leaving, we exchanged names and it turned out my husband does her insurance. It was a love fest and they had never met before and hugged etc. She left with flowers and we were going to move his Dad into this very room, if he was accepted. How serendipitous is this! There are no accidents in life, when you stay open to possibility.
So now I know why I brought up birth on a birthday and rounding the corner of your life. Visiting the facility, reminded me of preschool and the cute faces full of hope, joy, anticipation, excitement, fear, etc. We are all moving to the next classroom of our lives and in so many ways, they are similar to how we started our journey. We will hopefully have someone loving and caring to usher us in and usher us out. Life is our playground and we continually get to choose how we will show up. We can go kicking and fighting or surrender to our next chapter.
Tonight we are going to take him on his first outing in almost 3 months and wheel him to a restaurant, next to the rehab facility he is in. I bought crowns and will put pictures on it, bought him a tin can with a straw so he can sip his vodka (shhhhh, don’t tell anyone), poppers and a cake and my sister in law and brother in law will join us. He was evaluated and accepted yesterday, which he doesn’t know about yet, so we’ll print pictures of the facility. He will be sad to leave his retirement home where he was an ambassador and so well loved.
It’s the moments that count. I know some of you suffer in silence, others are battling for your life, our world has had such tragedy. The killings in the U.S. and our home towns are surreal. Still others of you suffer from depression, mental health issues etc. Life isn’t for the faint of heart but, it’s the only life we have.
Love yourself with all of the fragilities, fears, upsets, tears and turn it over to a higher power or nature if you will. Nature is one of our biggest healers. I’ve been behind in catching up with your posts and when I’m behind I don’t write as often so bare with me while I catch up. We are also, moving him out of his place which takes time.
I’m so delighted my book is now in the hands of my editor, Ingrid Wilson, at EFI so most likely, she’ll have me busy and I may not be able to post as much on the account of that either.
Have a beautiful day through the joy and sorrow of whatever you are facing.
I’m heading out to my biggest teacher and healer right now for a walk in nature.
Blessings of Love,
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All Rights Reserved
That’s a fun poem. Amazing story of the serendipitous meeting! And, you know, I should get a dog some day. I’ve never had one. People always seem to love them. I would like to experience that too.
Beautiful write,Cindy. You are so blessed to celebrate the birthday of your father in law. I lost my birth parents when I was in my twenties and when my mom in law passed, I took in my father in law and, he died in my arms at the age of 82. Reading you this morning, I revive these moments that make our life worthwhile. Thank you for sharing and, looking forward to reading your book.
Thank you so much for your kind comment. Sorry to be so late but I think I actually responded to this? Maybe on my phone though so I can’t tell! Oh, way too young. I’ so sorry!
What a wonderful DIL you were and such a gift for both of you! I’m so delighted that you enjoyed my reading and and you are so kind to want to read my book.
Thank you so much!
So beautifully expressed, Cindy! Those moments of life where happy and melancholy walk hand in hand. How lovely to have a place so fantastic close to you for your FIL! 💞💞💞
Thank you so much Dawn. It is so true and life is truly ever changing. Yes, it will be great! 💞
Happy Fun Friday to you too Cindy. A wonderful post. Good for you to shift FIL to a better facility. I too have my MIL who is the same age but in India we have maids who come to take care of their needs.
Hello my fun Yay Kamal friend. Thanks so much for your great support. It’s a rough time. I do love that you have support with maids for this. It’s soooo expensive here in the US for home care.🥰💗
I’ll be back to read it.
Dropping like so that I don’t forget 🙂
Good night from India
i dear Devang.. Don’t worry a thing I’m just back to tell you i’m delighted you stopped in. I’m way behind! 💞
HI Cindy, congratulations on getting your book to an editor. Well done. I think you are a remarkable daughter-in-law. Another well done.
I’m so honored by your appreciation! Thank you so much Robbie!!! You are so kind and I. Lucky to know you!! That means the world to me!!
It is my pleasure, Cindy. I am delighted we are friends 💖
Awww, You are a special person, I am as well.. Have a great day Robbie! ❣️
You too, Cindy.
Yay, i am so thrilled to know your book is up now for editing…🌹🌹🌹🌹can’t wait for it
Awww….Aren’t you the sweetest Mich!
Thanks truly for your enthusiasm!!!
Hey there are too many wishes and it says that how deep connection you have with people here and that’s the most lovely thing Dear Cindy! Your posts are amazing👍
And my wishes are also with you and your family always😊
Keep sharing dear💕😊👍😉
I’m most honored to connect with you and I appreciate your admiration of my work. I’m blushing. Thanks for the wishes most needed at this time. Blessings to you! ❣️
It’s my pleasure dear Cindy! You are really so kind hearted person dear🤗
And I’m so glad that my comment was helpful in bringing smile on someone’s face.. Take care😊💞
Oh that is very kind of you and you’re comment is very heartfelt! ❣️
Thank you so much Cindy! And tc dear💕🤗
Hi, Cindy. I’ve just realised that a reader was replying directly to my comment on your post. I think there are about three comments from him. He asked me whether I had a social media handle, to which I replied that I didn’t, although he could reach me through my contact page. His name is Yaksh Singh. You kindly told me we would be in touch through our blogs anyway. I think you replied to my message to him. I know it’s a bit complicated, but I just wanted you to know I would never ask for a social media handle. I must apologise, too, for the fact that Yaksh and myself were exchanging comments on your blog rather than him contacting me directly. I hope all that makes sense, and once again, I apologise. I wish you a lovely evening/day depending on where you are in the world. Xx 💓
No worries at all. I think I finally caught on and just ignored it after that. Don’t worry a bit. Thanks for your concern. The only thing is I had so many comments from him that I can’t find comments I intended to respond to that are gone but it’s not a big deal. Have a great rest of your day or evening as well!!!💗
Yes Sorry Ellie and Cindy to you both! Actually I also later realised that I should ask someone personally and not in this way.. Sorry Cindy for all this! I hope you don’t mind.. Actually I’m just new here and just wanted to have a guidance so I asked sorry to you both..
Oh heavens, don’t worry thing. It’s good to learn the ropes. It’s just sometimes you can’t get all of your comments if it gets filled up or maybe you can.. but I loose them which I pride myself on responding to my posts. 🥰
Yes absolutely true said dear Cindy! You are really so kind hearted dear💕🤗
Your points are right and you are so understanding and nice!
Stay happy and stay healthy😊🙏
You are soooo welcome always and thanks so much as well! 💗
You are at a difficult juncture in your life. It is difficult to have to put your parent in a home. So glad he is nearby. We were 2500 miles away from Ruth’s parents when both had to be placed in different facilities. As good as they were, it is still very difficult!
Thanks for noticing that Dwight! Oh that had to be really hard for you both. I am hearing about the 2 facilities and that has to be truly tough. Thanks a lot for your knowing heart and compassion! 💗
You are most welcome.
I thought I responded to this Dwight. So sorry if I missed it! That would be really hard to be that far and have 2 different facilities. Sooo tough! In my case, I have multiple family member’s with more needs than I can be helpful with so I do my best. Thanks so much for your heart and being here! 💗
Thank you, Cindy. You did respond earlier! I appreciate you responding and sharing your thoughts!
funny it didn’t show here.. maybe my phone is different., yikes … thanks 😇
A beautiful post, Cindy.
Yes, I’ll grab life as much as I can, before it forgets me.
It is a wonderful thing how you are here for your parents.
Love that Resa! you are a dear.. thanks I do my best! ❣️
Surroundings are so important for people, in all stages of life. I’m so impressed with your ability to provide positive energy to others through your real life stories!
You’re very dear to notice and share your heart with me Conny. Thank you so much!❣️
I love your spirit, Cindy. You’re such a great daughter-in-law. I don’t have a relationship with my FIL. He is a loner and I barely see him every Sunday and say hi and eat next to him. We don’t really chat either. Sometimes my MIL chats with me. My sister in laws call me when im sick and I call them when they’re sick. And I see them every Sunday. They used to visit me a lot but they kept crossing boundaries and when I started setting boundaries they withdrew for a long time. Their definition of love is: if you love us, you will let us interfere, but im not allowed to interfere or disagree with them. Sorry to take the yay out of my comment. I’m really happy you have a good relationship with your FIL and I guess I wish I had a good relationship with my FIL.
Thank you so much My friend! He is a prince. A man of few words and deaf at 97 but hanging in there.
It sounds like you created an honest relationship
Where you don’t get trampled on so kudos to you for that. Once a week is a lot to see everyone and stay congenial enough. That’s where friends become our family. Thanks for your read and comment:)