As we’re finishing up the year I’m reminded of how I started the year before lock down was in place. I created a goal of writing my newsletter every month on time with no excuses. When June rolled around, and we moved into more of the same, people kept saying “why not just drop it”. I began asking myself the same question. Sometimes it’s better to just walk away when you are in over your head or it no longer makes sense. In my case, there was something important to me, in seeing it through. Maybe it’s the fact that I always get emails or calls from people who read them, thanking me for the support and I’m humbled and encouraged if it helps just one person; Or maybe it”s because I had already declared that this was my goal. Finishing the objective you set out to do has more to do with you strengthening your own sense of self and trust in honoring what you say you’ll do, than anything else. I’m happy to say I’m almost to the finish line, with one month to go. Here’s the article I wrote way back in June called Why Goals matter, if you by chance want to check it out. I’m really happy to say I’m almost to the finish line.
What is Commitment?
Commitment is showing up and keeping your word. It’s doing what you say you will do, even on the days you don’t want to. It’s creating a schedule and adherhing to it, even when you want to stay in bed with the covers over your head or watch movies all day. What happens if you fall down and blow it?
You simply get back up when you do, and begin again. No one is perfect, so don’t beat yourself up. Beating yourself up is the booby prize, and makes things worse, wallowing in your woe is me, So forgive yourself when you derail and get back on track.. All great leaders, authors, executives, coaches etc, know this, and you are no different.
Dust yourself off and begin again, no excuses, no spilled milk. Bring the cat in to lap it up, if you have to. Yep, it’s as easy as that! If you only reach 80 % of your intended goal, then guess what? You are way ahead of the game and on your way to creating whatever it is you want. Stay the course, keep your committment to you and pretty soon you will see your deepest desires, manifested.
Your WHY might have to be reviewed to keep your eye on the prize. So make sure you have your Why somewhere where you can see it everyday!
Why do you want what you want? Why is it important to you? Make sure you are doing it for YOU. How will YOU feel after if you stay the course and complete your objective? Allow it to speak to the part inside of you that wants to emerge.
Fan it, write it, breath it, make it your Mantra! Committ to your highest purpose and stay the course. Dreams are manifested from this place. Keep Going, You’re almost there! Hooray for you, you are doing it! You are a bright Star in the Universe!
Here are the steps to help you stay the course.
What do you Want?
What’s your Why? Post it in several places
Make a Schedule.
Stick to it.
Afirm small steps EVERY DAY!!!
❤️ ✨✨✨✨✨ Cindy
Thank you so much for reading, liking (if you do of course), commenting and or sharing. I truly thank you so much.
Will we let ourselves get swallowed up in darkness,
Or continue to reach for the light?
It’s not easy this push to the left and pull to the right,
Even our families are in a tizzy and fight.
It seems so clear to me, and clear to them,
That they will do anything to divide our plight.
But the question is how can we continue to be true and honest to our ideals and have a dialogue so we don’t divide and separate creating more discord and dissonance? It’s one thing when we know someone from a distance or as a colleague or client, but it’s quite another, when it’s someone we love and care about; a child, sibling, parent or good friend.
Today is my Dad’s 86th birthday and we are on polar opposite sides in this election which isn’t easy. It gives me the opportunity to love unconditionally, while I disagree wholeheartedly, and a chance to get my bloated nothingness out of the way as Ralph Waldo Emerson said in so many words. What I do know is that the election will soon be behind us, and we will be faced with what is in front of us, and moving on from there is crucial, so we can create openings that unite, instead of divide. Why is this so difficult to do?
We are living in unprecedented times right now, which create unrest inside, while we try to find our center. The bombardment claws at us internally and we feel torn and ripped apart by opposing values. We feel violated, unheard, with forces opposing each other at every level, and the decency of being human, seems to be throw to the wind. This creates tension within, and a desire to search for meaning in our life.
Who are we is the age old question, and even if we knew at one point, we are forced to look again, and grapple and search for answers. We toss and turn and move into reaction by speaking out, or shut down, because it’s just too much to deal with. Something wants to be born and birthing is never easy. We can fall prey to false gods or to overwork, depression, anxiety, reaction, impatience, inertia or spin like a top, bouncing off walls. Our voice so much wants to be heard, so we yell which falls on deaf ears or we go radio silent, because we feel so powerless, wondering if our voice matters at all. These repressed feelings go underground and we think there is something wrong with us, when in fact, there is nothing wrong with us, but there is something terribly wrong in our world.
It’s hard to have discussions when we are polar opposites. So how do we survive this period in our lives that we are all in together and not go into reaction or no action at all? It’s hard to side step the issues because they are glaring at us in the face, demanding resolution, which bring justice not for one, but for all.
We all have different ways to deal with it but one way for me, is to come to my W.P. family, where I can write and get out on paper what, is so bottled up inside. I trust one of you will hear and witness me for having these feelings without being judged, and I feel validated and cared for. If one person hears us, it shifts our internal landscape and gives us hope. It’s a gift we share in our community here, where we contribute to the well being of each other and feel understood. We each have our own motives and agenda but we all have the commonality of writing from our hearts, to share something from our soul.
We each have different religious beliefs, color of our skin, sexual preferences etc, but we have writing in common. The power of our words, move people and each one of us contributes to the well being of each other. I had this epiphany when I read something that felt like it was written directly to me, which moved me so deeply. I had a cathartic experience where the words penetrated my soul so deeply and I felt so heard and seen that tears cleansed old wounds in my psyche and tissues. It made me think when we come to the page and share our stories, poems, thoughts, drawings, photography, ideas and hearts, that we never know who we impact and our words have the ability to reach deep in someone’s being, across continents and transcend time and space.
Tears run down my face in streams to the river, Grace touches my soul, I am heard and seen. My friends the trees, the flowers and your words hold me, As I swing from the branches. The rings tell their age, but I am young and free. How long do we hold grief in our tissue and our soul? I am heard and I am seen, for all of my flaws. I stand before you naked held in space, feeling whole, Hunger sufficed, as peace and joy fill the space, Taking the place where grief lives, Tucked neatly behind my smile. But I am heard and seen now. Thank you for this gift.
There is no distance in hearts that love. We are love. That’s why we’re here on this planet and if we can hold our tongues accountable and speak with kindness, we can hold each other together here on the page and change our future. If we can do it here, we can map that to each soul so that we may find peace and love. We might not change the world all at once, but one voice at a time, touching one soul at a time, rooting us back to why we are here on this planet at this particular time, gives me solace and comfort. I thank each of you for showing up with all of your trials and tribulations and sharing your stories, because you matter.
You matter to me. You are love, you deserve love and we all need each other. We are the stars in the sky and universe, each casting different gifts, reflecting back at each other to pave a path for love, wholeness, peace and happiness, casting light in shadows where we can all live as one. That is who we are.
Thank you for reading this and the contribution you make in my life.
A special thanks to Jason Gotlib for his spectacular photography that is so heartfuld and a beautiful addition of love and support.
And Happy 86th birthday Dad, I’m fortunate to have you in my life to share our truth, even if we disagree. It’s an honor to have a chance to be truly authentic in my views, but I’m just grateful my vote cancels out yours!
In Love and always light,
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The election reminds me of this cheer we used to shout on the sidelines at games, growing up when I was a cheerleader. Now, more than other we need to Stand Up and Do Our Part. Never let our tongues diffuse into anger and separation; No one wins that way. It’s toughright now when we have never seen such lies, deception, Covid, brutality etc. But we must persevere and be the change we want to see in the world, so human kindness can restore the broken desparity of inhumanity and do our part to show up and vote. That we can do. I will admit that it’s not easy to stand in silence right now and I need to do better at being tolerant instead of being on a rant. But if you lean too far right be careful what wish for.
Here is a picture of me and one of my best friends Sue Pratt, in grade school.
Vote like your life depended on it……says Michelle Obama. It does!
Lean in and Vote!
Happy Hump Day!
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Life has thrown us heartache and grief, yet we must continue to look at how we will show up and hold our hearts sacred, mourn the dying and reach out to those in need while we find The Silver Lining during unfathomable times.
We are called into uncharted territories while we make our way into the next chapter of our lives.
Regardless of where you find yourself on the spectrum of life, we are all being challenged to find our rudder and compass while we navigate these uncharted waters. They can be turbulent no matter what your age, profession or living arrangements.
Inertia can set in and create immobility and confusion, not knowing which direction to go in, or doing wheelies if you will, popping from one wheel to the other. Or we start spinning into rapid fire without a direction or even asking what direction you want to be going in. All of a sudden it’s as though a tornado hit and you are in the eye of the storm with no clue how you got there, on a desert island, alone.
You may be forced out of what you have known for so long and this creates uncertainty and confusion like being in a rip tide, lost at sea.
Wherever you find yourself, it’s no doubt different than where you were and most likely it’s a double edge sword.
I love what Bharath said in his last post which made me laugh and anytime I can laugh these days I welcome it!
“Times: I’ve changed. Do you like what I’ve become? No. Do I wish to go back? Hell no! Don’t ask too many questions, don’t ask for directions, I am alive and so are you; cross my path, wave at me and I might wave back. I’ve changed”.
I for one have chosen not to do massage at this time which is a big portion of my business currently, even though 42 counties in California allow it indoor with modifications. I have invested oodles of time and money in a profession that I’m not sure I will want to continue in which is mind boggling, but time will tell how I choose to move forward.
My staff is reluctant to start as well and we have taken a huge financial hit in this arena but we cannot open, even though our pocket books argue. We will and must listen to our moral compass when we know there will be another wave hitting in winter; even though our competitors are starting back. Money will never be our God, sacrificing integrity over greed. Instead we have all managed to find ways to shift and be creative while we wait for the storm to pass. I know of 4 people ( friends of friends) that have died and 12 that have been injected in various degrees. One was a near death experience where he came back into his body and he is using an inhaler and he is only 42. My heart aches for your losses and my heart holds yours while you grieve.
We are rewarded in life by following and listening to our hearts and tapping into our internal resources while lining up with the truth of the Law of Attraction ( basically what we need comes into fruition with intention and follow through).
I’ve been embarking on the venture of Zooming with Clients, blogging and writing which has been incredible in some aspects but has come with a lot of hiccups, not being computer and tech savvy. It has changed my relationships with others that are generally up close and personal, tactile with lots of interaction, to one that is more isolating and introspective.
I savor my quiet time but I find that interruptions throw me off kilter where before I was a genius at multitasking and juggling lots of balls. I have holed away and I find it annoying to be in anyone’s presence that distracts me, primarily because I lose my train of thought.
I don’t know exactly where I’m going with all of this but I am being led by my intuition even though it makes no sense at the moment. I do check in with myself to see if I should jump ship and the answer is “No, just keep going”. We don’t always know what the gifts are in the moment but through time, they make themselves clear.
My Silver Linings of Covid:
I’m loving taking pictures, which I’m not that good at but having fun with. I am featuring other friends and clients photography and art which is so inspiring.
I am learning some incredible new skills to live in a technological world in which there is no escaping.
I am able to spend time with my beloved Harry, my 14 year old King Charles Spaniel who is lame before he retires to the rainbow bridge.
I trained my once feral cat to adjust to indoor outdoor life and my dog Hunter, not to eat either cat.
2 of my adult children have lived with me since moving out in college which has allowed us to redefine our relationship as adults .
I’ve had some time with my mom and Dad.
I let the dust and fur stay on the ground and laundry pile up.
I have saved a ton of money but not going buying gifts and eating out.
I’m taking a writers workshop.
We’ve had a bumper crop of tomatoes and zucchini this year and I’ve made lots of tomato sauce for winter, which I never have time to do.
I’ve made some Youtube videos of my own for classes.
I’ve enjoyed some great hikes in our hood.
I’ve discovered some great musicians thanks to my friends’ generosity.
Getting your comments, reading your masterpieces of poetry, thoughts, pictures etc has been such a gift to me and enriched my life. It has made me a better writer and person. I have learned so much culturally and in history that I am embarrassed to say I didn’t know.
I have made some amazing new friends on WordPress from all over the world who have even zoomed with me to help me. Thanks Kumar!
I ASKED SOME FRIENDS TO GIVE ME THEIR SILVER LININGS OF COVID AND ONE SAID “NOT SURE WHAT YOU MEAN BY SILVER LINING, COVID SUCKS” 🙁. WHILE THIS IS TRUE, WE HAVE TO CONTINUE TO LOOK AT THE BLESSINGS SUBTLE AS THEY MAY BE.
Silver Linings from Friends and Family:
I’ve saved a lot of money living at home with my parents with meals but I’m drowning in anxiety working everyday really hard not making a damn dollar and I don’t see a way out… I want to buy a house.
I’m lucky to have my girlfriend at my side steadfast.
I’ve tapped into my organizational skills and cleaned my whole house. It eases my anxiety.
I learned that I don’t need to hang dry my jeans and all my workout clothes all over my bathroom and closet because they don’t shrink in the dryer like I thought for the last 40 years.
I like that I don’t have to rake the sand traps when I’m golfing as I visit lots of them😬
My golf score has never been lower
I’m living my best Covid life with no commute working online, getting daily exercise and staying a month at a time in different remote spots for free of charge all while in business school online.
The freeways are not crowded and the air seems cleaner when there’s no smoke and I smell more of the wonders of the land, plants and trees.
I’ve explored lots of new recipes in my cookbooks because we aren’t going out to dinner.
We’ve enjoyed supporting many musicians for our Instagram shows and they are so appreciative for the support as they’ve had no opportunities to perform for six months.
I’ve done more hiking in our beautiful area and feel blessed to enjoy the beauty all around us.
I am trying to appreciate a slower life with more time to contemplate myself and the world around me. I am also working on becoming more aware of discrimination and racism in this country, including examinations of my own shortfalls.
My discovery of how important it is to get outside each day to exercise. There have been periods of time that I did not get outside for any length of time for weeks or months!
Life actually slowed down!
we will have had 2 kids living with us for extended periods of time. Family time!!!!
taking over 30 online classes on various topics.
learning how to Zoom to connect.
love being home!!!
My hockey net
I am appreciative of what my mom has done for us for years. The way she cooks food inspite of being tired so I try to help her with chores some days.
So what about you? What is your Silver Lining of Covid?
Anything special you are learning about yourself?
As always, thanks so much for reading, liking ( if you do, commenting and or sharing). I am so grateful for your continued support truly!
Blessings and love while we light our path on our journey’s,
Reminding you that when darkness comes, leaves fall and all is cold and barren, you can reach inside for respite and light. It’s always thereeven in our darkest hour. You may be knocked to your knees, seething in anger and fear which is understandable. When the candle is ignited and you blow it out, bring it inside to illuminate your soul while you remember the burst of color from fall.
Have a blessed Dayas we stand tall in fall!
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I am so honored that Kally from MiddleMe invited me to interview on her blog. Kally comes from a corporate background, and is a online entrepreneur. She does a mirage of various projects and assisting start-ups and is a writer and a recruiter, coaching freelancers.
I hope you enjoy the interview……
One of the reasons that MiddleMe is such an awesome platform is due to the interaction we get from the diverse audience all over the world. I love that I have readers from Singapore to India all the way to the United Kingdom and United States. From retirees dishing out precious wisdom to essential staff sharing their stories with us.
Today, we have the Founder of Uniquely Fit, Cindy Georgakas with more than 35 years of health and wellness experiences, serving others with a passionate goal in mind – to help other people to find inner peace and healthy living, come and share her thoughts and experiences with us.
Hi Cindy, over in MiddleMe, we are all about having passion in what we do and helping others. We are honored to have you today to talk about your work and passion. Please introduce yourself and Uniquely Fit.
Thank you so much, Kally, for inviting me to interview with you. I follow your site regularly and find it very informative with such heartfelt passionate messages for humanity.
I was born in San Francisco, California and grew up in Daly City and I kept migrating south for warmer weather after college. I live in an incredible rural community in Woodside, Ca. about 40 minutes south of S.F. with just over 6,000 people with beautiful mountains to hike and beaches to visit which I love and keep me fit. I’m happily married with 4 children, 4 furry family members, 2 horses on our property and 5 ageing parents who are local.
Uniquely Fit was born out of my passion for fitness with the premise that every person is unique and different and each individual’s needs must be honored. The business has expanded and grown over the years offering more services and now with Covid reinventing itself yet again, with Zoom One on One sessions, group classes, outdoor sessions and I’m more active on blogging.
I modelled my studio after Jane Fonda’s aerobic studio she opened in 1982 in S.F. and I opened mine in San Mateo California within weeks of her opening hers when I was 26 years old. It was such an exciting time in my life building from the ground up and training staff.
At the time we had low and high impact, aerobic classes, with small free weights.
I also taught pre and postnatal exercise, birth coaching and baby massage with one massage therapist on staff. We had 15 instructors and 20 classes a week.
We have now expanded into having 4 massage therapists, yoga classes, No Guts No Glory (boot camp), personal training, Life Coaching, Craniosacral Therapy and we have a Nutritional Consultant on staff.
What made me want to set up Uniquely Fit? What is your mission behind Uniquely Fit?
With a major in Recreational Therapy, I started in convalescent hospitals where I felt I had very little actual control in helping people. I would go to work and come back in the morning to someone I worked with the day before, in my office (dead… yes you heard it right). Somehow they got put in my office as a holding spot.
After a few times of that, it was too heartbreaking for me because I grew to love each person I worked with. I decided to move into the wellness side of health and worked and managed different health facilities and taught workshops. After a few years, I decided to go off on my own and “do it my way”.
My mission is for each person to find their passion in their lives through movement, finding exactly what feeds them physically, emotionally and spiritually. I also struggled with my weight and one time went from 115 to 160 lbs in 6 months so I had a lot to teach with that experience.
How do you feel when you have successfully helped others?
I feel awesome! There is so much fulfilment when someone I work with reaches their objective because I know how much they have put into it to get there. It also motivates me to keep walking my talk because you can only help people if you truly live the process. My clients become my biggest inspiration!
What does inner peace mean to you?
It means accepting myself for who I am and relaxing into the present moment and connecting to the Spirit, God, Buddha within or whatever it is for you, where all is well.
Can everyone find inner peace in the end?
Peace is a state of mind and it is much easier when our basic needs of security are met but it is achievable and attainable in every moment if we can stop and quiet our mind, and allow it to fill our souls. It is NOT always easy but nothing worth having is. It takes patience, practice and practice, you must.
I try to help people achieve one goal a week with very small increments and when they master that add another. Meditation, breathing, music, journaling, walking, Yoga, Qigong are all modalities that help foster inner peace.
I have noticed that you have many skills like Occupational and Recreational Therapy among many others. What pushes you to pick up new skills and improve yourself?
I found out early on that O.T. was very tedious and the repetitiveness of the work wasn’t full filling so I moved forward into what was more satisfying to me.
As long as we are alive we are growing. There are times that my clients call me into new things out of the blue. I never would have taught a spin class or started massage if one of my clients didn’t “twist my arm”. Of course, they always make it an offer I can’t refuse. If there is a client that is struggling, I continue to access what is needed and will take other classes or certifications to find the best modalities to help them.
That is how I started doing Craniosacral Therapy and Music as Medicine. Other times, it is just a calling and I trust it and go with it. It has never steered me wrong. Other times I refer out.
What kind of challenges excite you?
There is usually an instinct or aha when I know it is something I want to pursue and usually there is a bit of fear when I think of it. My mind says, “oh forget about it” and I so wish it would go away but when it doesn’t, I have learned to trust it. This reminds me recently of taking the mules down the Grand Canyon.
First of all, I’m scared of heights so what part of me was crazy enough to want to do that I asked. I DON’T, I answered and I remind myself it’s ok to change my mind. But it kept persisting so I researched it a lot and I was so hoping I would change my mind but it wouldn’t go away and one thing I’ve learned is I have to follow that voice. I took me and my fear and gave it over to the donkey. It turned out to be exhilarating and so beautiful and I would have missed a lot by foot. I have a sign in my office that says If your Dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.
I’ve just started writing a book and it’s the same calling here and I keep thinking just forget about it while I continue typing.
What does being passionate mean to you?
It means having a purpose that I am excited to work on that brings me joy, exhilaration and meaning and sharing that with the world.
Do you think it is important to have passion for your job? Why?
I do because it doesn’t feel like work then. It feels like an extension of your mission and purpose in life. I love what I do but with that said after 6 -8 clients in a day, it is still something I need a break from.
The gift of a little more time right now is that I can explore other things I love as well. I see clients from as young as teenagers to 100. My soon to be 90-year-old client does a 5-minute plank, and is working on Zoom on an architectural project at the Historical Museum of Art in San Mateo. He still drives to come to see me and if this isn’t passion, I don’t know what is.
What advice would you give to someone who says they can’t find passion in their work?
I would say perhaps it’s time to look at what really would feed them in their job. Reinventing yourself is really important in life and it’s NEVER too late to start over. Sometimes it’s not the job that is the problem but the way they hold it. That is when I would do a one on one session with them to discover their passions.
You do offer Life Coaching as a part of your services. Can you please elaborate on what is life coaching?
I do and it is one of the highlights of my career. I was trained by the best in 1979 by Cherie Carter Scott, Mother of Life Coaching from Motivational Management Services. She recently produced a movie called “The Workshop” which can be seen on Netflix.
Have you ever had a question that keeps rattling around in your head and you never can get resolution on it? That is the perfect time to get a session. It can be as little or big as you can imagine. It could be deciding on how to let go of anger, moving, finding a new career path etc.
I was trained to use a Socratic approach and ask questions so people can access their own answers. The answers are always inside and it is my job to ask the right questions so someone can access them.
What is the difference between a life coach, a counsellor and a psychiatrist?
The difference is we have a very specific set of guideline in a life coaching session which can be broken down like this:
Objective: What do you want from this session?
Desire and willingness to get clear on it.
Exploring Feelings and fears.
Releasing what is in the way of getting what you want.
Making a plan of action.
Checking in to keep you on track.
Counselors have a good listening ear and usually offer much more evaluation and input.
A psychiatrist can dispense medicine and is usually much less available for exploration and implementation. They are great with finding imbalances in the system and prescribing medication when needed and often work with a psychopharmacist, who is a specialist in choosing medications.
All modalities can work independently or in conjunction with each other.
How is your business surviving during this pandemic? What changes did you make to accommodate the safety regulations?
It’s doing well with some gaps and it is slowly returning to more in-person visits with 6 ft distance and masks etc.
We take everyone’s temperature before starting with a handheld device to the forehead, sanitize everyone, have long wait times in between clients and different outdoor spaces to work in. We have sanitizing products, gloves and wipes available and hand washing is a must. Everything is left outside 2 days and then brought in and is wiped down. I am doing one on one sessions on Zoom as well.
People are adapting to the new normal and finding ways to soothe their bodies without actual touch but with substitutes such as foam rollers, balls etc as I direct them. Life Coaching as you can imagine is really needed right now with the constant changes and fear rightfully and that is being instilled. This gives them their power back.
Any tips for small businesses to survive during this time?
Be consistent and keep the ball going. Never before have I been so grateful to have so many platforms available to do my work and to shift into. I continue to put out my monthly newsletter and I suggest you keep as many systems in place as possible so you don’t fall behind and are ready to go as things shift; BECAUSE THEY WILL!
After my 2nd child, I brought my business home and ran pre and postnatal classes and baby massage out of my house and decided to semi-retire. Not long after that my husband’s business came to a crashing halt with the stock market crash and close. In one month I picked up the pieces and built my business back up to being booked with a waiting list and built a staff and made lemonade out of lemons. That was 25 years ago, and if I can do it, so can you. This is the silver lining when change hits you in the face. It’s the getting up that matters, not the falling down. That is life.
So, try things on for size, when doors close, remember windows will open. There are 9 NO’s to every Yes, so be resilient, don’t give up and don’t take it personally. Remember what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Once again, thank you for taking time in sharing your experiences and tips with us.
You are so welcome Kally. It was lots of fun and my pleasure and I do hope it has been useful for your readers.
Please feel free to reach out if I missed anything and Stay Strong and keep the faith everyone.
“The only way out is through” (Robert Frost) So don’t give up, you’re almost there. It takes as long as it takes.
If you are going through Hell Keep going.
Life is It’s not a panacea of perfect days or a bed of roses.
The waters can be rough and we get tumbled and scratched by thorns picking roses or blackberries, trying to taste the sweetness of the moment and days gone by.
If you have ever struggled with anxiety, depression, or any array of mental health dis-eases, an injury or medical condition; rest assured you are not alone. Covid can heighten and illuminate your struggles with any one of the above, in these surreal times.
If you’re going through hell keep going and reach out to someone to support you.
When life hands you lemons and believe you me, it will; Are you going to pucker up butter cup and give me a kiss (better not in Covid or I might push you.. ha) or are you going to make the most of it? Just add some agave or jaggery, a substitute I recently heard about. Stevia will do and yes, sugar is ok too, and make the most of it. A little sweetness always helps in a bad patch unless you’re a sugar addict of course.
If you have ever stubbed your toe or baby finger then you know exactly what I mean. You never knew a tiny toe could give you so much pain until you stub it. Or have you ever slept in bed with a mosquito?
Worse yet, have you suffered a major surgery or gone through an accident or perhaps the worst depression you have ever gone through in your life?
Everyone’s hell is their own and yet everyone wants to compare there’s with their friends and some might not even understand how this could be so bad. Others feel guilty for it seemingly being so small of an issue and yet, it is putting them through so much purgatory; it’s their truth.
Hell is Hell ok, and it doesn’t matter what anyone else is going through.
This is precisely why I believe in heaven on earth or hell on earth.
There is no there. The devil is standing at your door and it’s up to you if you open it or not. If you choose to, take it’s little horns and embrace them and give it a name so you can let go of this little or big devil.
What you say to yourself matters.
Beating yourself up for having the feelings will keep them omniopressant.
So what to Do, when the devil is knocking on your door?
Give it a face so you can look it in the eye and tell it to leave and take your power back.
2. Lock it up and tell it you are sick and tired of this place.
3. Call someone and have a little chat.
4. Go for a walk and bring a leash and you can walk it right out of you or with it at your side. Soon you’ll make peace with this annoying monster. After all, the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know.
5. Drown the bastard!!! Just blame it on the devil. Hey, the devil made you do it.
This will end and it is up to you to take good care of yourself daily and ride it out. Nothing lasts forever.
The best thing I have found when I’m going through hell is to:
Stop beating myself up.
Do affirmations in the morning and evening everyday.
Trust the process.
Love yourself no matter what.
Get support and reach out!
Hell!!!! It with come and it will go but heaven is a place I want to spend more time, what about you? So make sure you are with people that can remind you “this too shall pass” encourage you and love you through it.
Please remember that we all go through these same hellish times and you are not alone. Thanks so much for reading. I know this is a tough time for people and I truly empathize.
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