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I know it’s the love week but before we can let love in, we have to make space inside to receive it. I have been having more and more profound experiences of letting go and wanted to share my insights with you. This is longer than a lot of my posts to give you forewarning so feel free to skim and take what suits you; but if letting go is an issue for you, read on until the end.
“When you walk away from something or someone, you walk towards yourself”
“Letting to go is easier said than done I see the imprints of my nails dug into my hands As I say the words; Let Go Give it up, release it, surrender, move on Any of those words have the same response on my nervous system”.
Ever notice as soon as you say the words let go, you dig in a little more and even your toenails curl under. Shoulders tighten jaw clenches, muscles move into spasm. Or maybe you say the words “I’ve let go” but deep down you know you’ve done nothing of the sort. So why bother to try to let go at all? The real question is how do you do it truly, instead of just uttering the words.
It’s a lot like saying “don’t think of the elephant in the room”. What’s the first thing you think of? The elephant, of course and we all know this to be true.
So, how do you actually do it?
There are so many self help books written on the subject and they’re all really good. It takes lots of practice and practice makes perfect as we know. But friends, I’ll be the first to tell you; it ain’t easy and if it was, there wouldn’t be so many books on the subject.
Here’s the list you’ll always see in books to conquer letting go:
Visualize yourself letting go in your minds eye and releasing it up in a balloon out to sea etc
Meditate by taking some deep breaths and stay in the present moment focusing on a candle or a mantra.
Say your affirmations over and over in your mind
Burn what you want to let go of
Throw rocks in a pond
Do Yoga or exercise
Write in your journal
Listen to music it changes your brain
Go to therapy or see a life coach to find the underlying cause
Go on vacation
Move: Ever notice, wherever you go, there you are? There’s even a book on this.
Color or draw or splatter paint.
Accept yourself right where you are and let go of self loathing.
Take a few minutes to add to the list so you can make it your own.
Pick 1 or 2 of these and start practicing one of these modalities every day for 5 minutes and do it 2 or 3 times if you can. Do this for a month and see this issue resolved. Of course it truly depends on the incident in your life that you are trying to let go of. There are obviously some that have a much greater pull on your heartstrings.
2. The other thing is to just accept that you aren’t there yet! We know Rome wasn’t built in a day but we are so impatient.
Be gentle with yourself while you practice this new skill of letting go. Start letting go of little things first and say “as I let go, I free up space to be more of who I am now. I am safe, secure and happy”. Write that somewhere where you can see it everyday and make it your mantra.
I promise you the more you practice the better you get, until you can walk away from the drama and upset of others you no longer need or want in your life. This is so freeing and a breath of fresh air. We do our best to be loving and kind but we can’t please everyone. Remember, people are processing their own internal issues and most often it has nothing to do with you. We are each mirrors for one another to reflect back what internal work we need to do on ourselves. People often can’t see the part they play and it’s easier to place blame and become victims, rather than take responsibility for our own shortcomings..
“When you walk towards yourself you might feel afraid. Heart racing, temperature elevating, clammy palms or hands, throat gripping and that’s ok. A part of you wants to flee, but can you just be with yourself like a mother holds her baby in a colic fit with no judgement; just love? Love will set you free”.
Notice the sensations and just be with them and take a deep breath. Become a silent observer of your mind, body, spirit and actions and hold yourself lovingly and kindly. It will pass but you have to face and accept your feelings as they are in the moment. That is when true acceptance and change takes place. It will become second nature at some point but it starts with a simple shift of thought and action.
Start now, practice and celebrate your small wins.
Many of you know the heartache I’ve been going through with seeing our geriatric dog Harry, through his final days. Some of you might be thinking, “Gosh, we’re so tired of hearing about it, why doesn’t she put him down already”. Or others might be feeling the same thing about something in your life, so you empathize with what I’m going through. We only see through our own lens cap and know our own suffering.
We had an emergency scare the other night when his legs involuntarily started flailing everywhere and we thought he might be having a seizure and started panicking. I called all of our vets including our emergency vet with no luck. We were beside ourselves and I suddenly remembered someone in the family’s ex husband was a vet. In our desperation I picked up the phone and called his daughter to get his number. In seconds I got a text from her mother saying “this made all of us uncomfortable; next time call me”. I apologized profusely and explained we were reaching out because we were desperately trying to help Harry in case we had to put him down. As you most likely know in Covid, they won’t let you go in with your pet and we couldn’t imagine not being with Harry during his last breath. Her next text was “You made my daughter very uncomfortable, plenty of vets in the area” (her daughter is an adult mind you). My first reaction was anger and I quickly let it go. Emergencies do that for us and in a split second I moved on to Harry’s needs. I gave him some CBD and that did the trick and he slept soundly through the night.
I dropped the anger instantaneously and only felt sad that she was still hanging on to such upset. There was no question of me walking towards this drama and I simply didn’t respond back and walked away in love and kindness. It was over for me and there was no pull to clear it up etc. I could just walk away and take care of me and Harry and know I had the highest intentions for my dog with no malintent to her family.
In the old days, I may have tried to go back and clean up a mess that wasn’t mine to begin with, which could have made more entanglement and after all I did apologize. If you are an empath, or you had to get approval from your parents so they would finally see you, you tend to think everything is your fault. We know when we hold anger and resentment, we only hurt ourselves and moving forward without casting stones is always the right answer and I felt good about that.
“And when love sets you free, you can truly let go and you feel it in your bones, your psyche, your tissues and your spirit. Something more beautiful will enter your life. It always does. Let Go and Feel the Love”.
Congratulate yourself for honoring your truth without creating more drama and upset that was never yours to begin with. There is something very powerful in sharing your truth in love and letting go. We never know how the other person processes things, nor is it our job to “fix others”. By caring for our needs deeply we give everyone around us a chance to resolve their own issues and heal whatever it is that they need to heal when and if they are ready.
As for Harry, I found out the next day that the vet will let 2 of us go with him to say farewell when the unfortunate day comes to send him to the rainbow bridge, but he’s not ready yet..this moment anyway.
Keep walking towards yourself in freedom and love!
“When you walk away from something or someone, you walk towards yourself”. When you walk towards yourself you might feel afraid. Heart racing, temperature elevating, clammy palms or hands, throat gripping and that’s ok. A part of you wants to flee, but can you just be with yourself like a mother holds her baby in a colic fit with no judgement; just love? Love will set you free. And when love sets you free, you can truly let go and you feel it in your bones, your psyche, your tissues and your spirit. Something more beautiful will enter your life. It always does, let go and feel the love”.
Thanks so much for visiting today and reading. I do hope there was some useful information for you while you are getting ready to do some housecleaning so you can let go and let love in. You deserve it! Please remember to like (if you do of course), comment and or share.
Feel the love that you are and let your heart shine. If not now when?
If I am to be completely honest, I’m not feeling too fun at the moment. I have always been accused by my clients and most friends of being “too happy”. A dear client who transitioned at 86 used to say “OH NO, here comes Ms. Happy” when I showed up twice a week to put her through the exercise paces. The last thing she wanted to do with COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) was see me and yet it was the high point in her day.
I think of her today and the many I have lost over the years ( B.C. before covid) that were so near and dear to my heart. Some of them who had weathered the storms of the ages and some not able to see their kids graduate and I know they would be turning over in their graves right now with the current state of affairs in our country,
I stay happy because I usually stay away from the news and don’t allow toxic informaion that I have no control over to invade my psyche. I energetically stay positive and send energy by tapping into divine truth that raises my level of counsousioness and recharges me so I can be a conduit for others to do the same. It does no good to go down the tubes when I know that healing is going on at it’s deepest level and cleansing out the toxity in a situation is vital, no matter how ugly it gets. We have a choice, we can align with the divine and be a vessle for light and love to enter through darkness or we can let it envelop us.
I was glued to the news inbetween clients and shaken like most people I know, as we watched the unfathomable of breaking into our capital and vandalizing sacred ground incited by our leaders. I’m not here to talk politics. This is a deep time of mourning no matter what you are for or against and violence and threatening our democracy no matter what, is deplorable and never ok. So, I guess you would say, I’m in shock and mourning.
I decided on January 1rst that I would write a quote everyday this year and at the end of the year, if I don’t have the book I’m workng on ready, I will have a book of meditative quotes from the year. I wrote this for next year.
Jan. 6th 2021
Let the music of silence fill your heart with stillness The lyrics might be out of tune and your ears might need to filter out The noises all around you Surrender and let go as you dance through your day in light and love.
It’s hard to ignore voices of the outside world especially in despicable acts of violence trying to drown out truth.
How do me maintain composure and honor and do what’s right, when every ounce of you wants to retaliate?
It’s not easy to be witness to the atrocities of the world, destruction, violence, greed, anger, racism, rape; whatever the case may be. Last year today it was an assault to our democracy in America. Wherever you live, who ever you are, you know the feeling of being a victim of unjust behavior. We have every right to feel sad, scared and angry and yet we must remember that truth prevails and light overshadows darkness.
Our own inner world and mind can be as damaging to ourselves as what happens in the outside world.
Close your eyes and breath and ignite the light so we together can collectively find peace amidst chaos and confusion. Breath in and breath out as you settle the restlessness in your bones, so you can be part of the solution not the problem.
Sing a song of joy and goodness as you ignite the light.
On a happy note, I ended up staying home while my husband and son headed to the lake last night so I could take care of my soul on a deep level and enjoy the stillness of the morning. I’ll head up later but in the meantime, the morning is heaven as it always is when the sun comes to greet the day and I’m cuddled in, nestled between the sheets with my beloved cats.
I’ll be wandering to the lake soon after meditaion and my morning ritual of writing and the fun will begin. However you find yourself, honor your feelings and heart and treat yourself well. Enjoy your weekend and find respite no matter what’s going on in your world. I’ll see you on Monday with some exercise tips and an interview that Yvette from Priorhouse did on me, in case you haven’t seen it yet.
And have fun. After all, it’s Friday Funday and someone has to do it, so it might as well be you.
Stay Blessed, be bold and know you are love.
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As we usher in the New Year it’s important to reflect on 2020 to release whatever emotions or patterns might be holding us back from moving forward.
Take some introspective time to reflect if you haven’t done so already and see what you need to let go of and what you want to birth this year in 2021.
While we are so ready to say goodbye to 2020, it seems we are a long way from where we were before the Pandemic started.
Eager to move on with a vaccine being slowly distributed but not there yet, and we must do our due diligence while moving into the year with the unknown. And we all know the unknown is one of the hardest places to hang out in.
This is my annual ritual I do in groups with clients or alone. Both are awesome. You could even call your support circle together outside or hold a Zoom meeting and do it together online. You could also do it with me below and turn the video on and off while you complete each step. It’s very powerful and I haven’t missed a year for 35 years and I started the tradition with my family as well.
9 Easy Steps to Usher in the New Year and clear out the debris from 2020
Sit in meditation at your alter and light a candle, some incense, a flower and bell and root and ground for a few breathes or a long meditation. These 3 things reminds us of the impermanence of life as we know it.
Write down all the things you want to let go of from this past year on a piece of paper. This is your chance to get them all out of your body and mind and on to paper. Anything at all that has a hold on you. Ie: anxiety, anger, depression, jealousy, frustration, loneliness, hurt, resentment. It can go on and on and don’t stop until you have written each one down.
BURN IT! Yes, burn baby burn. Let it all go and feel it release far and away from you physically and metaphysically to create space inside for what you want to manifest in the New Year.
Write down what you are grateful for: I know this might be a tall order for some of you with loss and the challenge from last year but it is really important because Gratitude produces more abundance in your life.There are always things you can find even in the most dismal of times (yes, even in 2020).
And to think 2020 had such a good ring. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover…. what a lesson this was!
Write a letter to God, Source, the Divine, Your Higher Power affirming your wishes for 2021 thanking the powers that be. See my sample letter below from last year. I also might write some goals that I have with dates and a plan of action and add those to my calendar.
Pick 3 angel cards representing Past, Present and Future. This is optional but quite profound and fun to play with!
Stick it in an envelope, seal it and address it to yourself so you can mail it to yourself one week before the end of 2021 (write the day you will mail it to yourself in your calendar or you will forget).
Now, open your letter from last year. It’s amazing what you will find.
This year was like a surprise gift I could have never predicted.. If some things still haven’t come into fruition, you simply put them on your list for next year. In regards to my Angel Cards, I still have the same love transformed into more passion. I’m playing more and always have to be honest with my truth and integrity. I am curious about all of the cherubs in all 3 cards as this is rare. I have 4 children and had 1 miscarriage making 5. Does this mean I have grandchildren on the horizon? hmmmm…..I guess I’ll have to wait and see.
Remember to say Thank You!!!
Here’s are samples of what I wrote this year:
What do I want to release?
Impatience, frustration, perfection, fixation, being swept away, sitting so much, poor scheduling.
What I am grateful for:
My income only decreasing in half, clients that are so gracious, new definition of self, learning to do technology hard as it’s been, seeing clients on Zoom which has been awesome and more efficient in some ways, saving so much money by only spending money on essentials: Food and wine 🤣, learning how to structure my writing, my 1,000 followers to finish the year. Thanks again. My health, my yoga and Tai Chi practice, walking, strength training, sustaining my exercise routine, making videos, time with myself, effort, struggle and worry about income and just trusting, the beautiful clean air, starting my book and joining a writers workshop, doing some guest interviews, continuing even when I’m frustrated, help from some of you when I’m at the 9th hour and stuck, simple gatherings of everyone pitching in, letting go of messes in the house, amazing parents, kids, friends, pur word press family.
What I’ve learned about myself:
That I can stop driving myself to goals and trust the process, that I am capable of learning technology even though I have a difficult time with it, that I am resilient, that it’s ok to ask for help, I do much better with order and a schedule, it takes time to learn so it’s a double edge sword, to be gentle with myself, that I need to stop and eat and drink more water, that I love writing but hate sitting so much, that exercise, meditation and my yoga and Tai Chi are essential and imbedded in my genes at this point, I need to get up every hour and break, that interruptions of all of the animals is grating on my nerves, they teach me patience,
My letter From 2020:
This was wild to read because all of this came into fruition this year without any thought that my life would shift. At the time I was seeing a full load of clients 4-6 a day. Covid was the gift of allowing me to create this new shift. Otherwise, I would have just kept plugging along in my familiar and expected patterns. Yes, it took a pandemic for me to ask what about me, what do I want? Ask any busy person to get something done because they will do that and more. Now I have limits on what I want to do and how much is actually good for me, which is so freeing.I’m not sure why I didn’t address my letter in my usual way with is usually Dear Father Mother God, Thank you for my blessings of……..
I also enclosed a second page this year which I never do. I also often write down exercise goals, etc. and put dates on them and add them to my calendar. Somewhere, I must have known there would be no schedule this year.
Here’s the second page I included. It was so unusual for me to do a semi poem or thoughts propelling me into writing without even knowing it. I thought I would spare you from my horrible writing this time. 🤣
Gathering, chirping, nesting Moving from limb to limb Leaping to new heights Swinging off branches Singing my song.
Listening closely to my heartbeat We all have a song waiting to be told And to share with the world Deep penetrating, dark open to shed light on wounds and cleanse Drinking in the nectar of life’s gifts.
Sharp fans spike shadows of light moving gracefully, gently and swiftly cutting through lies People have their ideas but they can’t define me All are mirrors to grow and learn from.
Happy New Year as you put into motion an attitude of gratitude so that no matter what happens to you next year, you can ride the current, go with the flow and find your dristi (focus) and bliss.
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The day was beautiful and still, with not a cloud in the sky. 3 of my 4 children were visiting. One reading in a chair, 2 walking down the hall and I was in the kitchen where our patio door opens to our deck, where my daughter sat. I feel peaceful when we’re all together under one roof and savor these moments. Gone are the days of worrying what time they will be home and if they’re alright, if they were late. Keeping track of their whereabouts was always a worry which comes with the territory of parenting and is truly an illusion, since we can’t really protect them from life’s bumps and traumas, as much as we would like to. I was enjoying this quiet moment with all of them and there is something so comforting and satisfying inside of me, when we’re all together, and I treasure this feeling of contentment that envelops me.
From the near distance we all began to hear this slow cracking sound that continued to get louder and louder and then there was a loud whooshing sound and we all stopped in our tracks, as we heard a thud. My daughter Blair, stood quickly witnessing our Stonehenge Pine fall to the ground. This tree is about 50 ft tall with a trunk diameter of about 15 ft. and a canopy of 150 ft. My tree man tells me that it is a very sought after tree. When I look it up, none of the trees that I see, quite look like this one. They are fast growing and it is probably about 50 years old. Reading more, I’m finding some Pine trees are as old as the Bronze age, living 5,000 years and others like perhaps this one, has a lifespan of 50 years. That’s a little scary because we have about 3 more and if anyone happens to be under it when it falls, let’s just say, heaven awaits them.
Almost every week in yoga class we do Tree Pose; the sanskrit name is Vrikshana, वृक्षासन: Vrksa meaning tree and Asana meaning pose. The pronunciation broken down is Vrik-Shah-suh-nuh.
We do tree pose because it helps us root into the ground and anchor us to mother earth, where we draw nourishment from the rich soil beneath us and grow our roots of connection to our ancestors, carbon from which we are made of, and the healing microbes. We reach our branches up to the sky, so we may connect to the heavens and anchor between both spheres of the universe. Like our homes, our feet and connection with the ground is our foundation and vital so we have a solid base for utmost balance, giving us the ability to stand firm in our truths. In this way, when the world spins around us we can come back to center, keeping our Drishti (a focused gaze of concentration) allowing us to tune into ourselves and not lose ourselves by the noise of the outside world.
We all fall down, that is part of life. It is the getting back up that is important which is why I love tree pose so much. Often, we sway in class, challenging our proprioception(where we are in space), so we can increase our ability to stand tall and not be thrown off center, no matter what is thrown at us. The election is one of those times that comes to mind. We can’t control the outcome and no matter what happens, or what camp we are in, we will need to keep our own sense of ourselves, so we don’t get swallowed up and allow it to consume us. We aren’t in charge and trusting that there is a governing higher power helps see us through. Love is always the way no matter what forces try to tell us otherwise.
Sometimes as much as we try to get up, we wobble and fall but keep trying to stand on one leg, and other times, we just fall to the ground and get back up and try again.
But what happens when we can’t get up, like my Pine tree? Then what? I have been grappling with this concept for the last 2 weeks since it happened. What is the lesson then? The tree has had it’s day and it is not resurrecting anytime soon, and it will take time for it to decompose and return to the earth. Other parts will be cut and used to warm us in winter, still others to build benches with and garden chairs but it will never be as it once was. Nor will we.
What if we surrendered to the fall and held ourselves lovingly and kindly giving ourselves as much time as we needed, instead of rushing ourselves to get up? We die a little everyday and by remembering that, we can remember to live this day fully embodied in presence and awareness. It’s not always easy, tears are shed, pain is revealed, wounds burst open, but that’s ok. That’s part of life and part of letting go, so we can rebuild. What if we allowed the earth to feed us and we left parts of ourselves as gifts to the soil and drew strength from our ancestors that came before us, that lay deep below the surface. Could we just give ourselves permission to hibernate, heal and grow before forcing ourselves upright, giving ourselves the time we need, before we re-emerge again; stronger, healthier, brighter, with no race to the finish line?
We’re going to be ok no matter what happens, so be the reflection of the love that you are and stand on solid footing no matter where you land or how things go in life. Grow with the flow.
Keep growing your leaves to the light and together we shall be the beacons and lead the way to better days ahead.
Morning light, shine so bright, takes my breath away Your rays cast prisms, reflecting color of hope I covet this moment I have captured in my heart because of you
Too powerful for words, too scared to share for soon you will disappear ~ your light has enveloped me I empty myself in silence and will give them words when I can finally speak
No matter how dark the night, you rise and ignite our spirit infusing us with vision and light Where we can begin anew and start over each and every day.
No matter what your evening sky has held of rumble and thunder You wake up fresh and cleanse us of our pain and sorrow So we can pass on your lessons, to Let Go and Let God
You take my breath away, as I witness this moment to moment shift Blossoming, becoming, opening cracks in the sky Joy and beauty with in me and I am grateful
Thank you for reminding us to Be Bright, Be Bold and Stay Strong To illuminate our souls greatest longing to love and be loved and forgive We all come from the same seed of light, so let your heart shine in this truth
Drink in the nectar slowly,
Sweetness comes in many forms.
as you allow it to nourish your soul,
You are able to fill your cup and
your neighbors with the run over,
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