The election reminds me of this cheer we used to shout on the sidelines at games, growing up when I was a cheerleader. Now, more than other we need to Stand Up and Do Our Part. Never let our tongues diffuse into anger and separation; No one wins that way. It’s toughright now when we have never seen such lies, deception, Covid, brutality etc. But we must persevere and be the change we want to see in the world, so human kindness can restore the broken desparity of inhumanity and do our part to show up and vote. That we can do. I will admit that it’s not easy to stand in silence right now and I need to do better at being tolerant instead of being on a rant. But if you lean too far right be careful what wish for.
Here is a picture of me and one of my best friends Sue Pratt, in grade school.
Vote like your life depended on it……says Michelle Obama. It does!
Lean in and Vote!
Happy Hump Day!
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This piece was done by a dear friend / client of mine, Lynn Cornish and greets you upon entry of her home, welcoming visitors, to remind them of what matters most in life. Lynn lives in Portola Valley, California with her 2 dogs Ozzie and Bubba who are the light of her life. Lynn has been painting for 30 years and paints with 20 other artists in a warehouse in Redwood City, California. Her art is sometimes provocative, whimsical and always vivid and bright, capturing the essence of what happens on any given day.
This particular piece “Don’t Confuse Net Worth W/ Self Worth” is inspired by the area in which she lives in Silicon Valley, the dot com capital, where 1 % of the richest population resides. It could be easy to get swept away with power and greed but her message speaks to the heart, reminding us that truly Wealth is Health and not indicative of people’s contentment or happiness.
Lynn knows first hand that wealth does not equal health as her brother Robby suffered with mental illness all of his life. She tried for years to the best of her ability to help him with therapy, programs, housing, finances etc. He lived as rich a life as anyone could have with his serious condition of schizophrenia. He frequented thrift shops often and drove the car she gave him proudly and everyone knew him by name. He told many stories in lucid times and his favorite line was “It’s nothing to write home about” and laughter would fill the air. Everyone still laughs when they talk about this story and although I never met Robby, I feel as though I knew him by the stories that she and her brothers and sister in laws share when they get together in fond memory. Robby had an episode as is often the case with mental health issues that landed him in jail on a 5150 in March of 2015. I personally reassured Lynn that this was a good thing (I know first hand with family members that suffer from mental health issues) because he would now get the help he needed which is most often the case. She was trying to post bail because she was worried sick about him but sadly and tragically he was murdered in jail by his roommate who also suffered mental health issues on St. Patrick’s Day March 17th 2015.
Lynn makes generous donations to mental health organizations along with many other worthy causes.
Mental Health treatment, care and respect for each individual cannot be overemphasized in a world where 1 in 4 suffer from mental health issues and trauma. It does not discriminate and one never knows if or when one of us could be part of this percentage.
Lynn’s house reflects her fun loving, giving and vivacious personality that captivates everyone that comes in contact with her. Her walls are a gallery that infuse happiness and joy while looking at her art and her expansive view of the bay and majestic mountains.
Most days you will find her hiking the hills with the deer, turkeys and extraordinary wild life that are protected in her area.
Here’s Lynn‘s website if you want to check it out, just for fun. I am a HUGE fan and the lucky recipient of piece that hangs in my entry.
The one above is ear marked for another one of her friends but we are all battling her for it or urging her to make a lithograph for our homes as well. If you are interested in that please let her know.
One day when working with Lynn I saw this in her garage and she said she was painting over it because she didn’t like it. I grabbed it so fast it would make your head spin and I LOVE IT. What’s more is my husband and I don’t agree on art at all AND WE BOTH LOVE IT!!! That speaks volumes!!!
Look closely here…. no irreverence intended but even Buddha agrees this year has been F_____. Just keeping with the theme of things from last post. Lol!!!!
As always, thanks so much for reading, liking (if you do of course), commenting and or sharing. I’m most grateful for your time and kindness.
Here’s to our Wealth in Health with Love and Always Laughs,
Your body like your mind is your temple. Moving allows it to come to life freeing restrictions, creating new neural paths in the center of your brain, heart and belly. Feel the wind beneath your wings and Sweat drip down your face, as you get stronger everyday!– Cindy
I know a lot of you have umpteen reasons why you can’t get yourself to workout either because of time limitations, it doesn’t seem necessary, or inertia sets in making it difficult to put it into action. Some of you suffer from injuries or pain, depression etc. so I get how difficult it can be, really I do, but can I tell you a secret?
You Can’t Afford NOT to Work Out!
It’s vital to your health. There are so many forms of working out so you can be as creative as you can imagine and make it your own.
Still need a reason?
I will send my bodyguard over to “snap” you into shape if I have to. LOL
One of the biggest mistakes people make is waiting until they have time for a full hour workout and then doing nothing because they don’t think minutes count.
Well, guess what? They do!!! Minutes count and making them part of your daily routine and sneaking them in adds up and makes a difference.
If you have an hour by all means, do it…. Walk, bike, do yoga, lift weights, dance etc. But if you don’t; put the music on for 10 min and dance or go for a quick walk, when you get off the couch, do some squats or stretch, do a few core exercises, etc. Do that 3 times through the day and you have 30 min. under your belt. 6 x’s 60 min.
WOW… Right?!!!! Never again tell me you don’t have time.
It’s vital for your General health; moving toxins and getting the blood flowing, it lowers blood pressure, moves lymph, reduces insulin levels thus helping with diabetes.
It gets your cardiovascular system going which is good for your heart, lowers your pulse rate so your heart doesn’t have to work as hard. You lose weight and burn more calories keeping your BMI and waist circumference to an optimal level.
It Elevates your mood: Serotonin is released which is the hormone that aids in brain function and feeling good which wards off depression and anxiety and hey, we all need that especially right now.
It is good for memory and Alzheimer’s: A head Dr. From Stanford Hospital did a talk and he referenced the 4 most important things to help stave off Alzheimer’s.
The 4 most Important things to help Alzheimer’s are:
4. A healthy Diet and optimal weight
Yes, more beneficial than crossword puzzles and music which are of course good too.
5. It strengthens your bones and is good for Bone Density
6. Your skin looks healthier.
Don’t Have a Gym?
Well, most of us don’t but you do have a body which is heavier than any weight you can lift so
Keep it Simple Stupid.
What you need for your You’re home Gym:
Shoes: that’s all you need for walking
A mat: for exercises and stretching
Free weights: if you want them
Besides which it’s Covid free and I don’t know about you but I’m not heading anywhere near a gym except my own right now.
People think because I’m in the business, it’s easy to do but the truth is, it isn’t and I don’t always love it but I have reaped the benefits of all of the above so I prioritize it in my life and just do it like Nike tells us. I hate advertising but I do love that saying they coined so well. I also know variety is important to the body and brain so I mix things up. If you want your body to change you have to mix it up.
Moderate-Intensity Aerobic activity. Get at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity every week.
Vigorous-Intensity Aerobic activity. Get at least 75 minutes of vigorous aerobic activity every week.
An equivalent mix of moderate and vigorous intensity aerobic training.
Strength training. Do strength training exercises for all major muscle groups on 2 or more days a week that work on all major muscle groups (legs, hips, back, abdomen, chest, shoulders, and arms).
I like to break this down into weekly segments of 30 min a day but you can do whatever suits your schedule best.
To be considered vigorous, an activity should meet or exceed a level of 6 to 7, which is considered hard on the RPE scale. This includes jogging, biking, or swimming. The RPE is the rate of perceived exertion that you personally determine similar to the pain scale. Each of us have our own personal level we must listen to.
The Break Down:
Break this down to 5 times a week of 30 min walks. Or whatever distribution of time that suits your schedule best.
Strength Training for 2-3 days or 5 days with splits. If you are limited on time this is a great way to divide your training.
If you are short on time and it works better for you to split your routine into several short workouts throughout the day, do it! Any exercise is better than none! Don’t worry that you won’t burn as many calories or get good results.
Stretching is vital to do in some form or another. Yoga is my go to.
Circuit train which gets your cardio in as well as your strength and cuts your workout time down considerably: 30 min is equal to a
Examples of this are:
CrossFit – Designed to improve your overall physical abilities, including your endurance, strength, flexibility, speed, coordination, balance, and more. Combines many forms of exercise, high intensity.
Circuit stations training – Circuits are made up of exercise for a determined period of time, followed directly by rest or active recovery.
Tabata – a timed interval method that alternates between 20-second intervals performed at maximum effort and 10-second stages of rest, repeated eight times for the ultimate exhaustive four-minute workout.
H.I.I.T. – As you can tell from the name, high-intensity interval training (HIIT) is challenging. It takes your cardio workout to another level, as you push your pace out of your comfort zone. You can use HIIT with any type of cardio workout, whether it’s running, using a stair climbing machine, rowing, or jumping rope.
My Personal Workout Schedule:
I walk an hour about 4 days a week and 1 time a week an hour and a half
Yoga for 30 min 3-4 days a week and an hour 1 time a week Circuit train 2 times a week.
Strength Training: 2 times a week
Daily Meditation: 15- 20 minutes
Tai Chi and Qigong 3-4 days a week 20 min.
My Favorite Workout
My favorite workout is integrating a warm up of about 5 minutes, mixing in Yoga and Strength with light weights and ending with a meditation. This way I integrate everything that is needed in a work out in the most efficient use of my time.
Here is a 40 minute sample workout that you can and should try out yourself.
Remember to stretch and drink plenty of water.
JUST DO IT and please let me know how it goes.
Stay Fit, Have Fun, Be the Light and Be Strong!
You’ve Got This!
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I am so honored that Kally from MiddleMe invited me to interview on her blog. Kally comes from a corporate background, and is a online entrepreneur. She does a mirage of various projects and assisting start-ups and is a writer and a recruiter, coaching freelancers.
I hope you enjoy the interview……
One of the reasons that MiddleMe is such an awesome platform is due to the interaction we get from the diverse audience all over the world. I love that I have readers from Singapore to India all the way to the United Kingdom and United States. From retirees dishing out precious wisdom to essential staff sharing their stories with us.
Today, we have the Founder of Uniquely Fit, Cindy Georgakas with more than 35 years of health and wellness experiences, serving others with a passionate goal in mind – to help other people to find inner peace and healthy living, come and share her thoughts and experiences with us.
Hi Cindy, over in MiddleMe, we are all about having passion in what we do and helping others. We are honored to have you today to talk about your work and passion. Please introduce yourself and Uniquely Fit.
Thank you so much, Kally, for inviting me to interview with you. I follow your site regularly and find it very informative with such heartfelt passionate messages for humanity.
I was born in San Francisco, California and grew up in Daly City and I kept migrating south for warmer weather after college. I live in an incredible rural community in Woodside, Ca. about 40 minutes south of S.F. with just over 6,000 people with beautiful mountains to hike and beaches to visit which I love and keep me fit. I’m happily married with 4 children, 4 furry family members, 2 horses on our property and 5 ageing parents who are local.
Uniquely Fit was born out of my passion for fitness with the premise that every person is unique and different and each individual’s needs must be honored. The business has expanded and grown over the years offering more services and now with Covid reinventing itself yet again, with Zoom One on One sessions, group classes, outdoor sessions and I’m more active on blogging.
I modelled my studio after Jane Fonda’s aerobic studio she opened in 1982 in S.F. and I opened mine in San Mateo California within weeks of her opening hers when I was 26 years old. It was such an exciting time in my life building from the ground up and training staff.
At the time we had low and high impact, aerobic classes, with small free weights.
I also taught pre and postnatal exercise, birth coaching and baby massage with one massage therapist on staff. We had 15 instructors and 20 classes a week.
We have now expanded into having 4 massage therapists, yoga classes, No Guts No Glory (boot camp), personal training, Life Coaching, Craniosacral Therapy and we have a Nutritional Consultant on staff.
What made me want to set up Uniquely Fit? What is your mission behind Uniquely Fit?
With a major in Recreational Therapy, I started in convalescent hospitals where I felt I had very little actual control in helping people. I would go to work and come back in the morning to someone I worked with the day before, in my office (dead… yes you heard it right). Somehow they got put in my office as a holding spot.
After a few times of that, it was too heartbreaking for me because I grew to love each person I worked with. I decided to move into the wellness side of health and worked and managed different health facilities and taught workshops. After a few years, I decided to go off on my own and “do it my way”.
My mission is for each person to find their passion in their lives through movement, finding exactly what feeds them physically, emotionally and spiritually. I also struggled with my weight and one time went from 115 to 160 lbs in 6 months so I had a lot to teach with that experience.
How do you feel when you have successfully helped others?
I feel awesome! There is so much fulfilment when someone I work with reaches their objective because I know how much they have put into it to get there. It also motivates me to keep walking my talk because you can only help people if you truly live the process. My clients become my biggest inspiration!
What does inner peace mean to you?
It means accepting myself for who I am and relaxing into the present moment and connecting to the Spirit, God, Buddha within or whatever it is for you, where all is well.
Can everyone find inner peace in the end?
Peace is a state of mind and it is much easier when our basic needs of security are met but it is achievable and attainable in every moment if we can stop and quiet our mind, and allow it to fill our souls. It is NOT always easy but nothing worth having is. It takes patience, practice and practice, you must.
I try to help people achieve one goal a week with very small increments and when they master that add another. Meditation, breathing, music, journaling, walking, Yoga, Qigong are all modalities that help foster inner peace.
I have noticed that you have many skills like Occupational and Recreational Therapy among many others. What pushes you to pick up new skills and improve yourself?
I found out early on that O.T. was very tedious and the repetitiveness of the work wasn’t full filling so I moved forward into what was more satisfying to me.
As long as we are alive we are growing. There are times that my clients call me into new things out of the blue. I never would have taught a spin class or started massage if one of my clients didn’t “twist my arm”. Of course, they always make it an offer I can’t refuse. If there is a client that is struggling, I continue to access what is needed and will take other classes or certifications to find the best modalities to help them.
That is how I started doing Craniosacral Therapy and Music as Medicine. Other times, it is just a calling and I trust it and go with it. It has never steered me wrong. Other times I refer out.
What kind of challenges excite you?
There is usually an instinct or aha when I know it is something I want to pursue and usually there is a bit of fear when I think of it. My mind says, “oh forget about it” and I so wish it would go away but when it doesn’t, I have learned to trust it. This reminds me recently of taking the mules down the Grand Canyon.
First of all, I’m scared of heights so what part of me was crazy enough to want to do that I asked. I DON’T, I answered and I remind myself it’s ok to change my mind. But it kept persisting so I researched it a lot and I was so hoping I would change my mind but it wouldn’t go away and one thing I’ve learned is I have to follow that voice. I took me and my fear and gave it over to the donkey. It turned out to be exhilarating and so beautiful and I would have missed a lot by foot. I have a sign in my office that says If your Dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough.
I’ve just started writing a book and it’s the same calling here and I keep thinking just forget about it while I continue typing.
What does being passionate mean to you?
It means having a purpose that I am excited to work on that brings me joy, exhilaration and meaning and sharing that with the world.
Do you think it is important to have passion for your job? Why?
I do because it doesn’t feel like work then. It feels like an extension of your mission and purpose in life. I love what I do but with that said after 6 -8 clients in a day, it is still something I need a break from.
The gift of a little more time right now is that I can explore other things I love as well. I see clients from as young as teenagers to 100. My soon to be 90-year-old client does a 5-minute plank, and is working on Zoom on an architectural project at the Historical Museum of Art in San Mateo. He still drives to come to see me and if this isn’t passion, I don’t know what is.
What advice would you give to someone who says they can’t find passion in their work?
I would say perhaps it’s time to look at what really would feed them in their job. Reinventing yourself is really important in life and it’s NEVER too late to start over. Sometimes it’s not the job that is the problem but the way they hold it. That is when I would do a one on one session with them to discover their passions.
You do offer Life Coaching as a part of your services. Can you please elaborate on what is life coaching?
I do and it is one of the highlights of my career. I was trained by the best in 1979 by Cherie Carter Scott, Mother of Life Coaching from Motivational Management Services. She recently produced a movie called “The Workshop” which can be seen on Netflix.
Have you ever had a question that keeps rattling around in your head and you never can get resolution on it? That is the perfect time to get a session. It can be as little or big as you can imagine. It could be deciding on how to let go of anger, moving, finding a new career path etc.
I was trained to use a Socratic approach and ask questions so people can access their own answers. The answers are always inside and it is my job to ask the right questions so someone can access them.
What is the difference between a life coach, a counsellor and a psychiatrist?
The difference is we have a very specific set of guideline in a life coaching session which can be broken down like this:
Objective: What do you want from this session?
Desire and willingness to get clear on it.
Exploring Feelings and fears.
Releasing what is in the way of getting what you want.
Making a plan of action.
Checking in to keep you on track.
Counselors have a good listening ear and usually offer much more evaluation and input.
A psychiatrist can dispense medicine and is usually much less available for exploration and implementation. They are great with finding imbalances in the system and prescribing medication when needed and often work with a psychopharmacist, who is a specialist in choosing medications.
All modalities can work independently or in conjunction with each other.
How is your business surviving during this pandemic? What changes did you make to accommodate the safety regulations?
It’s doing well with some gaps and it is slowly returning to more in-person visits with 6 ft distance and masks etc.
We take everyone’s temperature before starting with a handheld device to the forehead, sanitize everyone, have long wait times in between clients and different outdoor spaces to work in. We have sanitizing products, gloves and wipes available and hand washing is a must. Everything is left outside 2 days and then brought in and is wiped down. I am doing one on one sessions on Zoom as well.
People are adapting to the new normal and finding ways to soothe their bodies without actual touch but with substitutes such as foam rollers, balls etc as I direct them. Life Coaching as you can imagine is really needed right now with the constant changes and fear rightfully and that is being instilled. This gives them their power back.
Any tips for small businesses to survive during this time?
Be consistent and keep the ball going. Never before have I been so grateful to have so many platforms available to do my work and to shift into. I continue to put out my monthly newsletter and I suggest you keep as many systems in place as possible so you don’t fall behind and are ready to go as things shift; BECAUSE THEY WILL!
After my 2nd child, I brought my business home and ran pre and postnatal classes and baby massage out of my house and decided to semi-retire. Not long after that my husband’s business came to a crashing halt with the stock market crash and close. In one month I picked up the pieces and built my business back up to being booked with a waiting list and built a staff and made lemonade out of lemons. That was 25 years ago, and if I can do it, so can you. This is the silver lining when change hits you in the face. It’s the getting up that matters, not the falling down. That is life.
So, try things on for size, when doors close, remember windows will open. There are 9 NO’s to every Yes, so be resilient, don’t give up and don’t take it personally. Remember what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Once again, thank you for taking time in sharing your experiences and tips with us.
You are so welcome Kally. It was lots of fun and my pleasure and I do hope it has been useful for your readers.
Please feel free to reach out if I missed anything and Stay Strong and keep the faith everyone.
Are you having a hard time doing workouts, feeling energetic, peeling yourself from the couch or chair for one reason or another?
You need to know my usual days are a perfect blend of working out either in my own practice, with clients or friends, doing massage, life coaching or teaching and now I would consider myself a Zooming Blogger. Simply put, I’m sitting on my arse a lot longer than I like doing livestream sessions and writing. Thank God I teach to get my bootie in gear.
I love that name Zooming Blogger because it pretty much sums up my life these days and I must give credit to The Blogging ‘Zoomer’ (a great site) where I borrowed the name from for the purpose of this post. I reversed the name because I might be zooming more than I’m blogging but that’s a toss up. Thanks Brandon!
With so much writing and technology I’ve been trying to figure out on Zoom and Word Press I can now relate to all of you executives, CEOS, writers and anyone for that matter that is married to their desks.
Also, a huge shout of to companies like Google, IBM, Microsoft, Intuit to name a few, for providing gyms and massage to your employees.
You are so smart knowing the increase in production when people get out and move. Serotonin is released increasing mood and productivity with happier employees!
Thank you and they thank you as well!
Alright, back on point.
I tried 5 different headphones to teach with and it turns out the 5th ones the charm. Yep, it took 5 different ones to finally settle on the Power Beats Pro by Apple. For one reason or another, something wasn’t working optimally for me; either because the music was too loud or not loud enough to hear both me and the music or visa versa, they slipped out or I was in pain after an hour of wearing them.
I’ll keep my day job!!! 🤣
I gotta tell you I am totally jacked.
THESE SLAP HARD!
First off, they don’t fall out when I teach and I can hear both clients and the music and they can hear me!
I just went out for a walk and had them in and as I was going to make some phone calls and the music came on accidentally. Out of nowhere, I just started running.
I was comfortable in my body and moving faster than I have in a long time!
It wasn’t a mediocre jog that I can pull out but a full on run. I wish I had a video to prove it.
It was so awesome. I felt energized, happy and finally got what my kids and clients experience when they are pounding the pavement (please try to stick to dirt or the treadmill though because it’s so much easier on your body).
Where have you been all of my life power beats pro?!!! (No, I don’t work for them but a kick back wouldn’t be bad.. hint hint.. lol)
I got a great sweat, workout and the time flew by. I had them in for 2 hours without any notice of them in my ear at all where most of them are killing me after an hour.
So make your favorite playlist, get up, get out and get yourself a headset.
I would share my favorite playlist but Youtube just blocked one of my videos for using unauthorized music so I best not get you in trouble. Sorry about that but I know enough to be dangerous.
Here is a quick home garden workout video with a peek into my daily workout with distractions and all.
I’d love to know your favorite playlists too if they are legal as I’m always looking for new music to teach too.
Make it a fun active day while you work of course as well in whatever
You are doing-:)!
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This sign is hung in the guest room of our lake house beckoning people to look within. I mean if you can’t be happy at the lake, where can you be happy? Alright, well it is Clearlake, California where the water is green on hot summer days because it is a natural lake which comes with the territory. Yes, there are bugs and bats and everything else that comes with outdoor life right?! Can I get an Amen?!
So, don’t bring your favorite suit unless you love chartreuse. Wear sun screen and a hat. Use insect spray if you must but the bats control the bugs and mostly they want nothing to do with you either, so relax.
We all know the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Albert Einstein got that right and yet all of these years later we continue on this merry ground.
So in the case of the sign:
Are you happy? If yes, A) Go jump in the lake, enjoy the algea bath or Kayak. You can either tie up and Jump in where the water is clear …well almost, Or just Kayak. B) Take a hike: There are so many beautiful mountains and trails. C) Go fishing off the pier. D) Go to Green Lake which is about 40 minutes from there and the water is actually clear. Who named these lakes anyway? Strange! E) Play bags outside Or bocce ball. F) Go skiing or wake surfing or boarding. G) Go wine tasting; outdoor distance tasting is open. H) Read a book or watch a movie.
If this isn’t a full line up of activities, I don’t know what Is!
2) Or as in the case of the sign, If you’re not happy, changesomething. LEAVE. You don’t do us any favors by sticking around and we’d rather not hear your commentary or complaints at a place we love. Green blood courses through our veins. HA HA! Look, there are plenty of beautiful freezing lakes so pack it up and go elsewhere. You won’t offend us, PROMISE!
In general in life, we are about as happy as we make our mind up to be. I actually like to change the word from happy to satisfied since the word happy conjures up an image in our minds of something outside of ourselves. No guys, everyday isn’t Disneyland damn it and seeing through rose colored glasses. Let’s face it, these days, it’s looking at the same 4 walls and making the most of each day to find moments that fill our souls. Being satisfied is where true happiness stems from and creates internal gratification.
We often look to others to make us happy and fill a void inside and when we don’t find that is working we either get angry, sad or lonely. Then we blame the outside world for our unhappiness. So, it’s our job everyday to look inside and follow our intuition and messages to create internal satisfaction. Yep, that’s right happiness is an inside job. Imagine that. Well you can blame others and get into entanglements and fuss and fight but it’s so much energy and high drama, why bother, unless you love soap opera’s. I’ve always said, I didn’t need to watch any since growing up was a constant drama. Try not to let everyday triggers get to you when a loved one spouts off. That’s their problem; really it is, so don’t take everything so personally. Easier said than done, do I ever know.
So what would make you truly happy?
For me it’s generally:
Starting my day in meditation
Stretching, Yoga and Qigong or Tai Chi (or all if I have time).
A hug from my humans and furry friends
Seeing all of you on our blogs with my cup of coffee in hand.
Hiking with my dogs
Strength training or dancing
Drumming or strumming a few songs
Having dinner and catching up with my family at the end of the day
Maybe a movie or reading a book
Just remember everyday is a new opportunity and you have the right to change your mind and attitude. Jump off the insanity wheel, change things up if you need to but don’t expect a different result if you do the same thing.
Be well and have a great rest of the week and weekend and see you next week.
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I sit staring at the blank page with jumbled thoughts.
I could write about meditation, health, fitness, the pandemic and of course racism but the words have been spoken and when we are in such shock and searching for justice, or fighting to be heard in a noisy world, there is a despondency and apathy that can invade your spirit. Fragments of a poem are the only thing that I find remotely possible but who wants to read unfinished thoughts or write them for that matter.
We all get writer’s block so we just let our fingers do the walking, emptying out the spaces of our mind to flush out what is behind the words and open our heart to see what wants to be expressed, if anything.
Perhaps it is apathy or hopeless despair, trying to sift through the sand to find grains of wisdom. It’s dark and cold; depression? I just want to hole up and throw the covers over my head and wait for all of it to end and joy to fill my weary bones. Ugh, groundhog day…..again.
I used to have a dream that there would be a moment where all beings everywhere had this wake up call all at once. There was a loud noise and then the words of a higher power, said ”Stop, what are you doing this moment, Drop your weapons, ego and righteousness and love each other, that’s all there is”. And as if by magic the voice was heard and we rejoiced together in euphoria and we recognized the oneness that existed instead of the separateness; And came together in acceptance and peace.
I have been told this is magical thinking and maybe it is but I will continue this dream and hold it in my heart and actions until the end of time. I will not succumb to violence even in my rage and sadness. I will hold my head high and low at times breathing deeply and forgive and heal until I have the strength to lift it and stand once again to take flight.
I will always hold the torch silently and loudly where I can find my light to ignite my spirit.
I will always stand for justice and honor peoples rights separating government from social stances, even when that’s not how our system works.
I will always see gray where we can honor each other’s differences as I fight to share mine.
I will always use kind words over destructive ones that separate and apologize when I slip up and don’t.
I will try not to lecture but listen beyond words.
I will fight for our rights and human injustices and stand up for a better future where we can live in equality and build a better future.
I will use my moments to look internally so I can see where I need to heal, forgive, let go, be kinder, stronger, take a stance, speak up and shut up. But I also know as long as we have a human race, there will be bickering, there will be greed, there will be people who take advantage of the system and have a pity party and choose to be victims of their circumstances instead of digging out and doing their part to change their life. It’s easier for some to blame than to take responsibility but until they do, they will reap what they sow.
I am blessed and I don’t forget that I am lucky to be born where I was, at the time I was, but it did not come without a lot of searching, investigating, clearing out debris and sometimes I felt like I was being eaten alive and permeated by intrusive thoughts and demons haunting me. But I didn’t back down, I looked in and healed those wounds, real or imagined.
As long as we are on earth, I’m sad to say, we will continue to have violence and killing and that is NOT to say it is ok. IT IS NEVER OK! It is simply to point out when we think this is worse than it’s ever been, might we remember history: The Civil Right Movement, World War 2, The Great depression etc. to remind ourselves that history repeats itself and we are fighting again for causes we thought we abolished but are still very much alive. Does it sicken us? Sure it does, but we will fight the good fight and stay strong and speak out demanding justice and equality.
Earth is a training ground for our next dimension and we must be ready to hear the call.
So stand up to injustice, speak your opinion, be an example first to yourself and then others who will model these truths.
We will not back down from these atrocities and let our spirits get beaten down but we will not put our boxing gloves on and fight either, creating more separation and damage. .
Instead, we will sit in the void, staring at our paper; Blank Slate~ Tabula Rasa shaking our heads, feeling the pain of our brothers and sisters, and hold ourselves gently and lovingly, until we have words to speak again and they flow through our hand from pen to paper, so we can share them with the world.
Of course it takes 2 to tango, so look at the part you played so you can learn
It once and for all; utter the words…
This cord of confusion is a waste of time.
Easy to think, “Oh, I should have, could have, would have…”
No more dwelling and be
Thankful that you are moving in a healthier direction.
I continue to pick up the phone and hang up before dialing your number. I composed a text for the umpteenth time, and then deleted it before I hit send.
When I’ve reached out, I’ve been rejected.
Sometimes, I look for the trail that will once again lead to your heart, like Hansel and Gretel, following crumbs. Nonetheless, the path just breaks.
This compelling need inside swells up and cries, “If you would only respond to me, I could move on.” Only when I pick up my journal, guitar, or uke and write, can it be released.
However, a gapping hole inside me grows deeper, the problem becomes everyone else’s fault. My mind says “If they just loved me ” and saw me, I could release this constant preoccupation with them. Of course when we have an expectation that someone will save us, we have put the responsibility on them not ourselves to resolve our issue which never works.
When I get through my day living true to myself, not letting this thought or person have control of me, I feel empowered and yet still dissatisfied.
What in me needs the approval of someone else that I will chase him or her at the expense of myself? How long will I make something outside of me responsible for my well being, and feel victimized when they don’t meet my expectations, wasting my energy, just so I can be validated?
When did I stop validating myself and why?
When we constantly look for things, people and places outside of ourselves to fill us and validate who we are,we will always be empty.
Next time you pick up the phone or want to reach out to someone; call someone that has always been true to his or her word and honorable.
Notice, when they get back to you right away, how you feel and how you respond to yourself
We are aware that their instant response is evidence they care. However, when we feel low, with a poor sense of our value truthfully, we question our worthiness of someone to respond attentively.
There in lies the problem.
It’s what you think of yourself that is the problem.
Do you think “what did I do wrong, what did I say that created them to leave” or “ what did I do for them to not respect me and call me back“.
You make it your problem but chances are it has nothing to do with you!
When you have worked all of your life trying to be noticed, abandonment issues run deep, and it takes discipline and practice to be kind enough to you to start living a life with people in it that are respectful and honor you.
Start today by honoring yourself and doing things for yourself that truly take care of you on a deep level.
Congratulations for not making that call and hitting the send button.
Life is about “finding peace in our struggles” as was shared so eloquently by a client.
Now go do something for you; making yourself your own best friend is an interesting experiment.
Just this morning I went to text and call someone who has not been returning my calls and I thought why would I do that to myself?
The message is clear: for whatever reason they are not getting back to me. It could be them or me, but I have tried enough. I miss what we shared and had, but at this point could I care enough about me? I don’t need to do that to myself because it creates a vicious circle of what I did wrong?
Consequently, I texted a dear friend instead, and right away I got a response.
I sat for a moment and thought: this is what I want. I want people in my life that do respond to me and treat me the way I treat them.
Some people wouldn’t give any of this a second thought. They would just drop the person and move on to the next. However, it’s only us that have issues with abandonment that have self-loathing.
I remembered instantly being 14 and waiting for my dad to come visit and pick me up, only to be stood up again. The pain of disappointment left me with wounds that are still triggered to this day. If I were just better, he would have been there for me.
So all of my life I have tried to be better with the hope I will have the Sunday visit 45 years ago that I so desperately wanted.
There are no more tears; they have been mourned a myriad of times.
Instead, a realization that I am worthy came over me and I felt a peace inside knowing that I could at least respond to myself lovingly and kindly from now on. I got out my shovel and headed to the garden with a grateful heart for the new seeds I am sowing.
You sit in wonder asking how can I be happy, see the light, find joy when all I see is the dark and anxiety lurks within? You try so hard. You eat all of the right foods, meditate, read, go to classes, take your vitamins, exercise and still there is a hole with looming doom.
Go to your cave and sit. But you say, “I can’t possibly do that, it will catch me and I will wither and wilt and perhaps I’ll go mad. Will you? Have you ever really stopped running? Take each moment as it is and breathe. When we think there is something wrong with us any feelings of darkness grab us by the throat and grip harder until we’re gasping for air.
You are not your feelings, thoughts or your mind. Your mind is just doing its job to keep you in this constant feeling of doom and gloom. When we see this truth and don’t give it power, we become free.
Let this be your mantra……
Just for today I will take each moment and breathe as it comes. I will not judge every little thing I do and berate myself. I will look at the morning dew on the window and notice a bird in the distant horizon. I will be that bird and fly to new heights of what I thought possible. I will watch the bird until I become one with it and feel free. And tomorrow I will do it again.
Hi there, thanks for making your way over. Here is how you can begin to restart 2015:
The first step in your journey requires you to
1. Write this year’s script:
Set aside a time where you can dedicate your full attention. This initial step is critical and powerful. When you proclaim what you want, it allows you to remain focused on what is key for you.
PROCLAIM WHAT YOU WANT:
-I want to lose 20 pounds,
-See a trainer
ASK YOUR WHY:
Why is this important to you? ? How will it change your life or enhance your life?
Is it in line with your life purpose?
2. Determine three goals that are key:
Setting a top three priority list this year allows you to fully delve deeply. If you overwhelm yourself too early, these will all be on your list next year. According to research, it takes 21 days of consistent action to build new healthy habits. Focus on each goal gradually, and build yourself further down the list.
4. Hire a life coach
A life coach holds you accountable, hone’s in on what is the most important why in your life and allows you to explore feelings. Having an individual who is on your side to face obstacles and make a plans changes your entire perspective by pushing you to remain consistent..
5. Pick deadline dates
Deadline dates encourage you to act with urgency. Without dates you end up aimless and unaccountable. They need to be attainable, and realistic times so that you can experience a win. Every time you meet your commitment, you begin building trust and self confidence in your abilities. This creates a, “Yes I can attitude!” which is paramount in attaining success.
6. The process of letting go:
We have a tendency to hold onto the past, and continue old patterns of thinking that perpetuate negative feelings into our present. Our minds hold onto pain, and we repeat the same tired old script in our present. In order to embrace the new year, you must learn to Forgive and Release the past. Unless you do this, you will never get what you truly want in life because you won’t feel worthy.
Letting go is much easier said than done. It requires a simple desire along with the discipline to see it through. However, have faith in your abilities
Fan your Wins:
In order to keep mastering things you want, you must be grateful and give thanks so more will come your way. To attract morepositivity and growth, you must understand like breeds like. Remember how Fire grows. If w e fan it, it ignites can move from a tiny flame into a roaring blaze. Similarly, if you fan your spirit with positivity and gratitude, your spirit expands.
Ideas for letting go:
Write it down and burn it
Imagine it leaving in a balloon into thin air
Bury it all the way to China
Come to the present moment and Breathe
Looking forward to hearing from you,