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I know it’s the love week but before we can let love in, we have to make space inside to receive it. I have been having more and more profound experiences of letting go and wanted to share my insights with you. This is longer than a lot of my posts to give you forewarning so feel free to skim and take what suits you; but if letting go is an issue for you, read on until the end.
“When you walk away from something or someone, you walk towards yourself”
“Letting to go is easier said than done I see the imprints of my nails dug into my hands As I say the words; Let Go Give it up, release it, surrender, move on Any of those words have the same response on my nervous system”.
Ever notice as soon as you say the words let go, you dig in a little more and even your toenails curl under. Shoulders tighten jaw clenches, muscles move into spasm. Or maybe you say the words “I’ve let go” but deep down you know you’ve done nothing of the sort. So why bother to try to let go at all? The real question is how do you do it truly, instead of just uttering the words.
It’s a lot like saying “don’t think of the elephant in the room”. What’s the first thing you think of? The elephant, of course and we all know this to be true.
So, how do you actually do it?
There are so many self help books written on the subject and they’re all really good. It takes lots of practice and practice makes perfect as we know. But friends, I’ll be the first to tell you; it ain’t easy and if it was, there wouldn’t be so many books on the subject.
Here’s the list you’ll always see in books to conquer letting go:
Visualize yourself letting go in your minds eye and releasing it up in a balloon out to sea etc
Meditate by taking some deep breaths and stay in the present moment focusing on a candle or a mantra.
Say your affirmations over and over in your mind
Burn what you want to let go of
Throw rocks in a pond
Do Yoga or exercise
Write in your journal
Listen to music it changes your brain
Go to therapy or see a life coach to find the underlying cause
Go on vacation
Move: Ever notice, wherever you go, there you are? There’s even a book on this.
Color or draw or splatter paint.
Accept yourself right where you are and let go of self loathing.
Take a few minutes to add to the list so you can make it your own.
Pick 1 or 2 of these and start practicing one of these modalities every day for 5 minutes and do it 2 or 3 times if you can. Do this for a month and see this issue resolved. Of course it truly depends on the incident in your life that you are trying to let go of. There are obviously some that have a much greater pull on your heartstrings.
2. The other thing is to just accept that you aren’t there yet! We know Rome wasn’t built in a day but we are so impatient.
Be gentle with yourself while you practice this new skill of letting go. Start letting go of little things first and say “as I let go, I free up space to be more of who I am now. I am safe, secure and happy”. Write that somewhere where you can see it everyday and make it your mantra.
I promise you the more you practice the better you get, until you can walk away from the drama and upset of others you no longer need or want in your life. This is so freeing and a breath of fresh air. We do our best to be loving and kind but we can’t please everyone. Remember, people are processing their own internal issues and most often it has nothing to do with you. We are each mirrors for one another to reflect back what internal work we need to do on ourselves. People often can’t see the part they play and it’s easier to place blame and become victims, rather than take responsibility for our own shortcomings..
“When you walk towards yourself you might feel afraid. Heart racing, temperature elevating, clammy palms or hands, throat gripping and that’s ok. A part of you wants to flee, but can you just be with yourself like a mother holds her baby in a colic fit with no judgement; just love? Love will set you free”.
Notice the sensations and just be with them and take a deep breath. Become a silent observer of your mind, body, spirit and actions and hold yourself lovingly and kindly. It will pass but you have to face and accept your feelings as they are in the moment. That is when true acceptance and change takes place. It will become second nature at some point but it starts with a simple shift of thought and action.
Start now, practice and celebrate your small wins.
Many of you know the heartache I’ve been going through with seeing our geriatric dog Harry, through his final days. Some of you might be thinking, “Gosh, we’re so tired of hearing about it, why doesn’t she put him down already”. Or others might be feeling the same thing about something in your life, so you empathize with what I’m going through. We only see through our own lens cap and know our own suffering.
We had an emergency scare the other night when his legs involuntarily started flailing everywhere and we thought he might be having a seizure and started panicking. I called all of our vets including our emergency vet with no luck. We were beside ourselves and I suddenly remembered someone in the family’s ex husband was a vet. In our desperation I picked up the phone and called his daughter to get his number. In seconds I got a text from her mother saying “this made all of us uncomfortable; next time call me”. I apologized profusely and explained we were reaching out because we were desperately trying to help Harry in case we had to put him down. As you most likely know in Covid, they won’t let you go in with your pet and we couldn’t imagine not being with Harry during his last breath. Her next text was “You made my daughter very uncomfortable, plenty of vets in the area” (her daughter is an adult mind you). My first reaction was anger and I quickly let it go. Emergencies do that for us and in a split second I moved on to Harry’s needs. I gave him some CBD and that did the trick and he slept soundly through the night.
I dropped the anger instantaneously and only felt sad that she was still hanging on to such upset. There was no question of me walking towards this drama and I simply didn’t respond back and walked away in love and kindness. It was over for me and there was no pull to clear it up etc. I could just walk away and take care of me and Harry and know I had the highest intentions for my dog with no malintent to her family.
In the old days, I may have tried to go back and clean up a mess that wasn’t mine to begin with, which could have made more entanglement and after all I did apologize. If you are an empath, or you had to get approval from your parents so they would finally see you, you tend to think everything is your fault. We know when we hold anger and resentment, we only hurt ourselves and moving forward without casting stones is always the right answer and I felt good about that.
“And when love sets you free, you can truly let go and you feel it in your bones, your psyche, your tissues and your spirit. Something more beautiful will enter your life. It always does. Let Go and Feel the Love”.
Congratulate yourself for honoring your truth without creating more drama and upset that was never yours to begin with. There is something very powerful in sharing your truth in love and letting go. We never know how the other person processes things, nor is it our job to “fix others”. By caring for our needs deeply we give everyone around us a chance to resolve their own issues and heal whatever it is that they need to heal when and if they are ready.
As for Harry, I found out the next day that the vet will let 2 of us go with him to say farewell when the unfortunate day comes to send him to the rainbow bridge, but he’s not ready yet..this moment anyway.
Keep walking towards yourself in freedom and love!
“When you walk away from something or someone, you walk towards yourself”. When you walk towards yourself you might feel afraid. Heart racing, temperature elevating, clammy palms or hands, throat gripping and that’s ok. A part of you wants to flee, but can you just be with yourself like a mother holds her baby in a colic fit with no judgement; just love? Love will set you free. And when love sets you free, you can truly let go and you feel it in your bones, your psyche, your tissues and your spirit. Something more beautiful will enter your life. It always does, let go and feel the love”.
Thanks so much for visiting today and reading. I do hope there was some useful information for you while you are getting ready to do some housecleaning so you can let go and let love in. You deserve it! Please remember to like (if you do of course), comment and or share.
Feel the love that you are and let your heart shine. If not now when?
The waves kiss the shore bringing up beautiful shells; some pristine, some cracked, others broken. I discard the broken ones looking for the perfect ones. The broken ones fill the parts of me to attempt to make me whole.
A mosaic of pieces reflecting my soul but I just want to be one perfect shell that is whole and complete. I am a collective of all of the fragmented pieces of myself.
I try hard to sift the imperfection so I can show the world my perfect self. But what or who is perfect? The most perfect that I can be is when I realize the imperfections and embrace them not making one better than the other.
There is no perfect because we are evolving and we are human which shifts moment to moment. Be Still and know that I AM God.
When the hermit crab outgrows it’s shell, it doesn’t argue. It doesn’t try to change into a butterfly 🦋. It simply finds a new one that fits him better.
As I was walking on my path today I kicked an orange that had fallen from the tree. A light bulb went off when I realized I had done this way too many times. Somehow I had judged our oranges on our property as bitter and sour and not worth eating.
I had a bite out of one once and that was my experience. I bent down, picked it up and examined it. It was true; it was asymmetrical, smallish, the skin was rather soft with spots and it certainly didn’t look very appetizing. And then I had a conversation with myself that went something like this: “This comes from my tree on my land that I grew and I’ve been poo pooing these oranges all of this time. I have judged it as being bad since that one bite even though I have been painstakingly feeding and watering it. I still keep the bitterness in my mouth unwilling to open to new possibilities. How many other things do I do this with? It is here to nourish me and is loaded with vitamins. This is food and some people don’t have food readily available. I am hungry this moment and I am turning my nose up and judging this piece of fruit that so graciously showed up for me , the same way I turn away from what’s good for me sometimes because of a past memory”.
Talk about judging a book by its cover.
And what’s worse, I go and buy these at the store often because I think mine aren’t good enough.
I sat down and peeled the orange and juice ran down my fingers. I put it in my mouth and it was so sweet and delicious, I was surprised. As I thanked this delectable fruit, I was thankful for the sunshine, water, the people who planted this plant before I got here, the critters of the earth that mulch the soil, the birds and bees that pollinate it, and I thanked it for showing me all of the places that I think I’m not good enough like I thought this orange wasn’t good enough. The time I think other people know better than me, that I think I am flawed, or they are, that I gained 2 lbs, that I have 3 new wrinkles on my face, that I wasn’t as tolerant with someone when I could have been. Well, how can I be when I kick an orange out of my path that I don’t think is “good enough” or think I don’t measure up.
As I allowed the sweetness of the orange juice to drip down my throat I was grateful and become one with the fruit and forgave myself for taking it for granite and being so hard on myself and others. I remembered it is my job to see things fresh with new eyes everyday, grow, forgive myself and others so I’m might have more sweetness in life.
Who would have guessed the lesson of the day would be received by the wisdom of an orange and to think I may have kicked that down the hill and missed the nectar and gift it had to offer.
I only have 5 pears on my tree but I’m going to go check them right now.
Who knows what they have to teach me.
Life stands still looking out at the birds flying overhead spreading their wings.
Light filters into the room reflecting hues of green from the leaves that surround us as the sun takes its place in the sky.
Sideman, a small village central Eastside Bali near Padambai is quiet an remote amongst the rice terraces and lush palm trees and greens. It is an artisans village where they specialize in colorful threads of double ikat and silk-woven clothes to be appointed on your walls, bed or body.
The women painstakingly weave these beautiful threads and hand dye them with vegetables extractions teaching the younger generation to preserve these ancient customs. It is out of the hustle and bustle of town and it’s been said that this is what Ubud was like 20 years or so ago.
On Sept 1st, the streets are closed and they have a cremation of about 100 people. They create beautiful pagodas of animals and put the bodies in there to burn. After 7 days of prayer and preparation, they burn the bodies. Then they take them to the river to return them to the earth. Life is simpler here and in much the same way they have other celebrations, there is a communal synergy you don’t see in our part of the world.
They live together in family temples and collectively care for each other as a whole completing the cycle of life. It’s quiet here with the sounds of frogs, birds and insects buzzing, but at 8 or 9 we will begin to hear the scooters in this tiny village and gasp on the smell of the fumes as each one passes us.
The pool is small but well appointed and the temples on the property remind us to pause and reflect. I am once again reminded to slow down as I do my breathing/meditation and stretch qui overlooking the veranda.
My monkey mind is still fighting for survival but slowly I can feel a calmness wash over me as I sit on the couch contemplating my navel as I sip a cup of fresh brewed luwaik…. (coffee from the poop of a luwak.. gross sounding I know).
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HEADSTAND READY OR NOT:
Last year I took Dharma Mittra’s class with 100 other people. I thought the class would be easy and relaxing since he looked anywhere between 80-100.
When he demonstrated an effortless headstand I was in awe. I have never aspired to stand on my head for the benefit of blood rushing to my head and creating new neuropathways. It could easily be had by lying off the edge of my bed which had no appeal either.
I was in the second row which made it harder to fake the asanas (yoga postures) but I modified where I could.
I heard him say “look at me”. I looked up and he had singled me out, his eyes piercing mine and he said “up”. I have no idea to this day how this happened but my legs shot up above me and I was in a headstand. I was stunned and elated all at once. I suppose this is how someone pushes a car off a loved one when it is not humanly impossible. That’s how it felt to me anyway. I’m still not sure where this came from. Was I afraid of the consequences if I didn’t go up? Did I get the affirmation from a well schooled teacher that saw something in me and I didn’t want to disappoint him? Did the power in his words speak to a place inside where I wanted to do this but had given up on the idea because it was pointless or I was too old? Was it because if this old man could do it, so could I? I felt like a little kid again and wanted to run to mommy shouting “look at me”. I was amazed and proud even though this felt somewhere out of any control I humanly had. To this day I do headstand most everyday because I can. It reminds me that there are so many things in my life waiting to emerge if I just stay open and listen to my intuition.
Hi there, thanks for making your way over. Here is how you can begin to restart 2015:
The first step in your journey requires you to
1. Write this year’s script:
Set aside a time where you can dedicate your full attention. This initial step is critical and powerful. When you proclaim what you want, it allows you to remain focused on what is key for you.
PROCLAIM WHAT YOU WANT:
-I want to lose 20 pounds,
-See a trainer
ASK YOUR WHY:
Why is this important to you? ? How will it change your life or enhance your life?
Is it in line with your life purpose?
2. Determine three goals that are key:
Setting a top three priority list this year allows you to fully delve deeply. If you overwhelm yourself too early, these will all be on your list next year. According to research, it takes 21 days of consistent action to build new healthy habits. Focus on each goal gradually, and build yourself further down the list.
4. Hire a life coach
A life coach holds you accountable, hone’s in on what is the most important why in your life and allows you to explore feelings. Having an individual who is on your side to face obstacles and make a plans changes your entire perspective by pushing you to remain consistent..
5. Pick deadline dates
Deadline dates encourage you to act with urgency. Without dates you end up aimless and unaccountable. They need to be attainable, and realistic times so that you can experience a win. Every time you meet your commitment, you begin building trust and self confidence in your abilities. This creates a, “Yes I can attitude!” which is paramount in attaining success.
6. The process of letting go:
We have a tendency to hold onto the past, and continue old patterns of thinking that perpetuate negative feelings into our present. Our minds hold onto pain, and we repeat the same tired old script in our present. In order to embrace the new year, you must learn to Forgive and Release the past. Unless you do this, you will never get what you truly want in life because you won’t feel worthy.
Letting go is much easier said than done. It requires a simple desire along with the discipline to see it through. However, have faith in your abilities
Fan your Wins:
In order to keep mastering things you want, you must be grateful and give thanks so more will come your way. To attract morepositivity and growth, you must understand like breeds like. Remember how Fire grows. If w e fan it, it ignites can move from a tiny flame into a roaring blaze. Similarly, if you fan your spirit with positivity and gratitude, your spirit expands.
Ideas for letting go:
Write it down and burn it
Imagine it leaving in a balloon into thin air
Bury it all the way to China
Come to the present moment and Breathe
Looking forward to hearing from you,